Dear future daughter-in-law,

The very first thing I want you to know is that I’ve been praying for you since you were a little girl. And by the time you read this, you’ll be a grown woman. I picture you…not the way you look on the outside, but the way God made you, the gifts you have, your talents, your beautiful heart.

One day, you’ll be our daughter-in-law and I can’t wait to finally meet you face to face.

My deepest desire foryou isn't wrapped

It’s occurred to me lately, that even though you won’t read this letter until you’re close to your wedding day…it’s important to me that you know what’s been on this mama’s heart all these years–and you, dear daughter, have surely been on my heart.

My deepest desire for you and my son isn’t wrapped up in the words  “happily ever after”, but instead, I pray you will experience wild joy together as you seek God’s blessings in the everyday.

Of course, I pray there is happiness in your life now and for all your married days together, but happiness is circumstantial and we know that life sometimes just isn’t fair. Instead, it’s messy and hard and beautiful all at the same time. There will be days when you wonder, “Why does it have to be so hard?”

The answer to that question can only be found deep within the pages of God’s love letter to us, the Bible. And the one thing that continues to grip me more than anything I find in God’s Word is the art and act and choice we can make to be thankful in all things.


Just one little word that lies at the root of all peace, joy, contentment, grace and freedom.

I am praying that seeds of faith are being planted deep within your heart, that you are experiencing God’s great love for you, His precious child. I hope that someday when you and my son finally find one another, that you will spend all the days of your life together looking for all kinds of reasons to be thankful together, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer. Oh, how I pray that God will teach you both how to be thankful, even during the harder times of life.

I want you to know we are doing our best to prepare our son for you, for that day when the two of you shall be joined as one.

The miraculous thing about the heart that finds the blessings in ALL seasons and in ALL things…is that it builds our trust in God and causes us to be braver and bolder in our faith. Be brave, my daughter. Trust in God with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding and thank Him in all things. Right there…thanksgiving…that’s the secret to a Joy-filled woman and a “Joyfully ever after” kind of marriage.

“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

You are dearly loved and prayed for sweet one.

You Future Mother-in Law

A Call to Action:

If you were going to write a letter to your future daughter-in-law, what would you want to tell her? Go ahead, write that letter. And if you are feeling led, like I am, let’s keep writing to them as God grows us in our faith and wisdom. Someday, these will be a blessing to them.

Let’s Pray:

Heavenly Father, we are so thankful for the blessings of our sons. Whether our boys are young or nearing the age of adulthood, we lift up the women they will one day marry. Keep us accountable, Lord, to praying specifically for their hearts as they are being prepared for our sons. We pray that above all else, that they would learn to love well from the One who created them. Help them both to see the blessings in every circumstance as they live and grow in their faith now and when they are united as husband and wife.

Megan Spires is mom to 4 boys, passionate about encouraging moms in their faith, is inspired by others willing to share their real-life stories and finds joy in the everyday of Motherhood.