“I’ll be a better mom tomorrow.” I’m sure there’s not a mom among us who, at the end of a hectic day, hasn’t whispered this to herself.

You know what I’m talking about. The kind of day where your two-year-old flushed a box of tampons down the toilet while you were cleaning up the muddy footprints left by your 6-year-old son and the puppy (that you never really wanted anyway—the puppy, that is).

FEELING ALONE

Do you think, “Why does it feel like I’m the only mom hanging on by a thread?’

To look at pictures in social media, every other mother seems to have it together—and not just in the mom department; she’s also posting pictures of the pinterest-post-worthy dinner she made, and the jewelry she assembles in her spare time.

“Spare time—what’s that?” you mumble under your breath as you pull out the frozen pizza and bag of salad for dinner.

One day, when I was snapping orders at my kids, I came face to face with my own insecurities as a mom when my four-year-old said, “I know you can’t wait ‘til we are grown so you can do whatever you want.”

I thought, “What? How is it that the impression I am giving my children?”

I was humbled when my pretense to have it all together was exposed by my four-year-old observer. I knew I needed help if I was ever going to become the mom I had hoped to be.

I realized promising myself to be a better mom tomorrow after some late-night self-evaluations did not have the power to change me. But I had no idea how to be the mom I meant to be. I fell to my knees asking God for help. Maybe you can relate?

The Lord is ready to help those who humbly ask. Psalm 25:9 says, “He leads the humble in what is right, and teaches the humble His way.”

GOD’S ANSWER

God answered my cry for help by leading me to some godly women who were a step ahead of me in their parenting journey. Titus 2:4 instructs the older women to “train the young women to love their children.”

These women taught me the most important aspect of parenting was to love the Lord with all of my being (see Mark 12:30). They promised when I learned to love God properly, then His love would spill out of my heart toward my family.

The only way to fall in love with someone is to spend time with them. I discovered the secret to loving the Lord more each day would lie in the time I spent learning of His character in the Bible.

The more time I spent with these lovely older women who studied the Word, the more I wanted to be like them.

I know, I know. I can hear you say you’re too busy to study the Bible. I get it: as a young mom, I had the same concerns. But as I stole away moments here and there to study the Bible and apply what I learned to my life, do you know what I found? I not only grew in my love for the Lord, but the way I interacted with my children was transformed to peaceful kindness.

FORMULA FOR SUCCESS

God’s Word gives this formula for success:

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” Romans 12:1-2

I am so confident that what I learned from the women God sent is what helped me be a better mom, I wrote the book Moms Raising Sons to Be Men. It is helping thousands of mothers become the moms they hoped to be. Through these biblical principles, God helped me raise two godly men—and I know He can do the same for you.


Rhonda is an enthusiastic communicator who is genuine and transparent. Through humor, and honest communication, she helps women build NO REGRETS LIVES by applying to life sound teaching from Scripture. Rhonda inspires women to become the NO REGRETS WOMAN God intends them to be. Rhonda appears on radio programs, speaks at women’s events, MOPs, and homeschool conventions throughout the nation.

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