“So often I feel like all I’m doing is managing our home and trying to just keep up or catch up with the things that need to be done to take care of the physical needs of our boys. Laundry, dishes, cleaning, cooking etc. takes up so much time that I feel like I’m never able to actually “play” with my 3, 5 and 9 year old boys or spend any quality time engaging them. I really need some encouragement today for the harder more physically demanding years of boyhood? How do you moms do it?“
Julie Titus Sanders:
“As this school year closes in our household, I feel like a bell has tolled. I have one short year left with my boy at home. Suddenly, the hands of the clock seem are racing with speed I can’t slow. I want more time to enjoy him, to play with him, to listen to him, to know him. The demands of life like laundry and dishes have been my task masters, too, and I’ve fought the fight of every mom: to balance our work while being accessible to our children. After all, the food won’t cook itself! But time is short. Time has always been short, and now I feel it. You are such a wise mom to ask this question before your tribe has even marked a decade. You are on the right track.
Ask yourself this question every day
The mom who misses her opportunity to enjoy her boys is the mom who never asks this question or sees the potential for tasks to steal the time. Every day, consider how to be a good steward of your job as a mom. This job includes the “duties,” but it also includes relationships. Give yourself permission to engage your boys as part of your tasks, but also without the distraction of the tasks. “I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live; also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil – this is God’s gift to man,” (Ecclesiastes 3:12-13). Your busy boys will certainly create a lot of work, but your boys ARE your work. Investing in them through play and enjoyment of each other is a sweet part of your role. Don’t let the taskmaster of duties rob you or them of the joy! Ask God to steer you every day It’s not easy to make choices every day, all day, about how to spend our time. We want our boys to appreciate a clean, orderly, peaceful home. We want our families to be well fed, clothed, educated, and cared for. But relational investment ranks right up there as a priority for a mom’s limited time and energy. To play with, laugh with, listen to, enjoy, and explore with your boy is part of your commission as a mama. Don’t feel guilty when you order a pizza, accept some wrinkles, smile at dust, or walk through crumbs in order to enjoy your boys. Time is short, sweet friend. Whether or not we feel the urgency of making the most of our days with our sons, the clock is ticking. God invites you to take pleasure in your boys, to know them and be known by them. It will be time well spent, and the dishes will wait.”
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