Going It Alone (21 Days of Prayer Prep)

This is day three of preparing our hearts for the upcoming 21 Days of Prayer for Sons challenge. We’re studying the first three chapters of Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most. If you missed day one, click here. Day two, click here.  As you read today, ask the Lord to reveal His heart for your sons, and prepare yours to begin praying tomorrow!

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“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 4:19

Alone.

Just the sound of the word stirs up emotion. If you are in this place now, either spiritually or physically as a parent, you probably never intended for life to be this way.  I know I didn’t. My husband and I eagerly welcomed all three of our children into the world as huge blessings from God, but I knew how proud he especially was to have two sons.  Sons…to carry on his family name, to coach in sports, camp out with, and to train to be mighty warriors for Jesus.

Then, life happened… and it was full of grief and pain. The Lord took my husband home to be with him in February of 2013.  And I was left staring at these little boys with big brown eyes and sweet, but energetic spirits, wondering the same thing I did when they were handed to me after they were born.  How am I going to raise boys?  Only this time, I felt even more clueless, with their father no longer there to guide me through the world of boys.

Going It Alone — 21 Days of Prayer for Sons Challenge

Truth is, even though we may feel like we are walking alone in this parenting journey, we really aren’t.  Our Heavenly Father is always here to guide, comfort, and be strong in our weakness.  He has promised to supply all of our needs.  So where does that lead us as we approach Him in prayer?  For me, it’s done three things.

  1. Intentionality – My prayers are more intentional.   I have friends who say they are praying for my children regularly, but I don’t usually hear those prayers.  When I feel like I’m the main one crying out to God for the hearts of my children, I don’t waste time praying for things that don’t really matter.  I go right to the matters of greatest importance, asking Him for wisdom for myself and hearts in them that desire to obey Him and love others.
  2. Humility – I’ve become more humble with my prayers.  I am well aware of my own capabilities and know that this job exceeds them.  I just can’t do it all.  But it is not about me.  My current state in life forces me to fall on my face, fully reliant on my Savior.
  3. Opportunity - Because of that forced humility, I dream bigger.  I am reminded of the miracles that God performed in the Bible, and am expectant for Him to still do miracles today in my children’s hearts.  I trust that the story He is writing is greater and grander than I can see, and I pray big for them and their futures.

When the One who holds all of the riches in glory is the Creator and Sustainer in our families, we really never have to go at it alone. Trust Him, dear mama.  He’s got this.

WHAT ABOUT YOU?

If you are in the fight to raise godly sons alone right now, or know someone who is, in what ways have you seen God work already?  

In what ways can you be praying bigger?

Christy Davis HeadshotChristy Davis is a mom of three precious children and loves coffee, good books and craft time.  She writes at What Hope Looks Like from Here, a blog she prays will bring hope to women.

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What is Prayer and Why Should We Do it? (21 Days of Prayer Prep)

This is day two of preparing our hearts for the upcoming 21 Days of Prayer for Sons challenge. We’re studying the first three chapters of Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most. If you missed day one, click here. As you read today, ask the Lord to reveal His heart for your sons, and prepare yours to begin praying on October first.

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“O Lord, please let the man of God whom you sent come again to us and teach us what we are to do with the child who will be born.”

Samson’s dad praying in Judges 13:8

When I was in college the girl who lived across the hall from me was a Prayer Warrior. She would turn up the latest Hillsong CD (It was “Shout to the Lord” if you’d like to figure out how old I am) to level 25 and start yelling her prayers for the whole hall to hear. Now, I was a little different. We had this empty broom closet at the end of our hall with…well, nothing inside. You could go inside, lock the door and pray to your heart’s content. Whenever I went in there, no one knew I was there. I wasn’t slapping my hands on the floor, crying real tears or shouting “Hallelujah.” In fact, *whisper* I may have fallen asleep once or twice.

Praying for good grades or direction in your career or relationships is super important, but when I became a mother, my prayers became a little more…desperate. I felt like Samson’s parents shouting out to God, “Lord! I have NO IDEA what I’m doing! Please! Please teach me how to raise these kids!” In fact, sometimes I may have shouted my prayers to God. I certainly cried real tears and I probably turned up my iPod to the max to drown out whatever else those little ankle-biters were doing below me.

So, what is prayer? Like Brooke said in Praying for Boys, it’s simply talking, asking and listening to God. Plus, the best part–it’s believing Him. Not believing in Him but believing Him. The way you believe your husband will bring home dinner like you asked, like you believe your mom when she says she’ll pick up the kids after school.

What is Prayer and Why Should We Do it?

I think prayer is an action that shows you actively trust in God’s love, care, direction, power and interaction in your life. When we pray (especially when we pray God’s Word), we are connecting to God and His desires. When we pray, we are opening up ourselves to see God interact and move in our lives.

When we pray those quick prayers in the bathroom with the ventilation fan running, we’re believing God is ready to step in and help in our lives. When we pray those Scripture prayers and insert our sons’ names, we are believing God will bring those truths to fruition. When we pray simple “God bless ‘em and keep ‘em” prayers as they jump out of the car for school, we are believing God is there next to our boys.

Our simple prayers are like steps of faith and acts of trust. Our prayers don’t have to be at a certain time, for a certain length or with some big emotion behind them. They just have to be. When we see our prayers as spiritual reality, we’ll be more apt and more excited to pray. When we recognize our prayers are the same kinds of prayers prayed by Gideon and Moses and Daniel, I agree with Mark Batterson, “…we may experience what they experienced.”

So, the question again is, “What is prayer and why should we do it?” Prayer is talking to our heavenly Father and we should do it–we will want to do it because it’s an active, strong, powerful and real way you can connect to His desires, His action, His plans for your children.

Oh, God! Thank you for allowing us to join with you in prayer! Wow! Talking and listening to you is a gift! As I pray my small words, help me to see them as red-hot connections to You. Help me realize that my prayers are powerful–not because I’m powerful but because they allow me to be in line with you and your power.

When was the last time you realized your prayers were REALLY connecting with the Almighty God?

AManda White Head ShotAmanda White is a stay-at-home mom of two who blogs at ohAmanda.com and is the author of Truth in the Tinsel: An Advent Experience for Little Hands. In her former life, Amanda was a Children’s Pastor — overseeing, organizing and developing ministry for kids in nursery through middle school, but now that she is a mom, her “skills” are used up on her kids!

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How to Participate in the 21 Days of Prayer for Sons Challenge

There are literally thousands of you signed up for the 21 Days of Prayer for Sons challenge starting October 1!

In case you’ve been wondering, here’s how it will work:

How To Participate in the 21 Days of Prayer for Sons Challenge

September 26, 29, and 30 – Days of Preparation

It’s important that we go into the challenge with our hearts right before the Lord. These three posts will cover the first three chapters of Praying for Boys. Read along in the following chapters, and come back here each day prepared to discuss what the Lord is teaching you:

September 26 Boys are a Battle Zone

September 29th What is Prayer and Why Should We Do It?

September 30th Going It Alone

October 1-30 – 21 Days of Prayer for Sons

Yes, we know there are more than 21 days in October ;) The challenge will begin on Wednesday the 1st and go every weekday through October 29th. On October 30th, we’ll host a link up for bloggers who would like to write about their experience in the challenge and share it with others.

Please read the chapter with the same title the evening before (for example, read Heart Change on September 30th and be prepared to talk about it on this site on the 1st).

The Schedule

October 1 – Heart Change

October 2 – Obedience

October 3 – Overcoming Fears

October 6 – Integrity

October 7 – Wisdom

October 8 – Pride

October 9 – Honor

October 10 – Purity

October 13 – A Servant’s Heart

October 14 – Fruit of the Spirit: Love

October 15 – Fruit of the Spirit: Joy

October 16 – Fruit of the Spirit: Peace

October 17 – Fruit of the Spirit: Patience

October 20 – Fruit of the Spirit: Kindness

October 21 – Fruit of the Spirit: Goodness

October 22 – Fruit of the Spirit: Faithfulness

October 23 – Fruit of the Spirit: Gentleness

October 24 – Fruit of the Spirit: Self-Control

October 27 – Anger

October 28 – Forgiveness

October 29 – Salvation

October 30 – Link-up

The Posts

Each day of the challenge, a member of our reader community will post their thoughts on the chapter, share a bit about how the topic of prayer has affected and/or changed their lives, and ask discussion questions designed to help you process your thoughts on each chapter. Please come to the site each day ready to chat with us!

The Prayers

At the end of each prayer chapter in Praying for Boys, there are ten prayers for that topic crafted from scripture. After reading the chapter the night before, visiting the MOB Society blog for thoughts and discussion with the community the day of, spend time throughout each day praying those ten prayers for your son.

This is the meat of the challenge. Reading the book and participating in the challenge is great! But decide now how you’ll incorporate actual prayer time for your sons into the next 21 days.

Here are some great ways to make it work.

Pick one, or come up with your own. It doesn’t matter as long as you’re praying!

1. Pray all ten prayers during your personal prayer time before your boys get up in the morning.

2. Set your alarm to pray one prayer each hour between 7AM and 5PM.

3. Pray the prayers with your family right after dinner.

4. Pray the prayers with your son(s) as a special nighttime/bedtime routine.

Bonus: If you’re feeling really adventurous, highlight the prayers that seem to speak to you, or that cover an area your son is struggling with as you move through the chapters. At the end, string them all together in one big, long personalized prayer for your son!

Any questions? Feel free to ask! And if you’re not signed up yet, simply subscribe to the MOB Society blog now. That way, the posts will come straight to your inbox all month long!

Boys Are A Battle Zone (21 Days of Prayer Prep)

Today, Monday, and Tuesday, we begin preparing our hearts for the upcoming 21 Days of Prayer for Sons challenge by studying the first three chapters of Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most. As you read today, ask the Lord to reveal His heart for your sons, and prepare yours to begin praying on October first.

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“For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit,joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12

“Dear Son, please stop eating the dog food and playing with knives.  Love, Mom.”

This is what a love note to my toddler son would read.  Honestly, it probably wouldn’t sound quite that sweet.  What you don’t hear are the exasperated sighs that wonder why such reminders are even needed.  It seems boy moms share something in common: whether our boys are 3, 13, 23, or 30, they often leave us scratching our heads and wondering why.

I’ve been praying about those exasperated sighs.

Does God want to come along and make this raising a boy thing easier?  Yes!  But, He doesn’t wave a magic wand nor promise our boy’s blind compliance.  Instead, He invites us to use His Word—the one that is alive and active (that means doing something!).

As a mom who works outside the house full time, I face the continual challenge to still give my family my best time, even when that doesn’t mean my most time.  I continually look for ways to better connect my love for God and my love for them so I may more effectively be all that I am called to be right now—a righteous woman, wife, mom, and employee.

A Righteous Home Front

In reading Boys are A Battle Zone, the first chapter in Praying for Boys, I was struck by the discrepancy between Eli the Priest’s professional life and his home life.  What a dichotomy that in the temple he is given one son to train in righteousness, while his own sons have no regard for God.  It’s easy to read and question Eli, but I understand all too well how this disconnect occurs.  When God is not our focus, we can “turn it on” in the workplace and act as we know we should. On the home front, where our true colors show, we can reap truly sad consequences when God is not at the forefront.

How can God remain a priority in raising our sons through the exhaustion that each day brings?

Prepare your heart for the next 21 Days of Prayer for Sons with the MOB Society.

Through His Word—alive and active—His very breath, eager to work powerfully in our lives right now.

My first step in preparing for the battle zone began with my relationship with Hebrews 4:12.  Do I really believe his Word is alive and active in every area of my life? Do I really believe that God’s Word can work powerfully in parenting our sons?  Can I replace those exasperated sighs with God’s truth?

A sobering look inward made me realize that while I love God’s Word—studying it, writing about it, digesting it—I have not been using it nearly enough in my prayer life.   The more I think on it, I truly believe that praying His Word is a powerful way to prevent disconnects in my own personal/professional/spiritual walk. It also helps to quiet those exasperated sighs.

What about you?

Do you believe God’s Word is alive and active in your life? How is it active in the role of raising your son? Could it be that God is challenging you to let His word be more active in your parenting?

Kate HeadshotKate Carman believes each day should include celebration, the Bible, vulnerability, and coffee with French Vanilla creamer.  She lives in Georgia with her husband and two young kids, works full time in commercial property management, and loves to write and encourage.  You can read more from her on her blog.

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21 Days of Prayer for Sons (join us for the next challenge!)

  • Are you a mother of boys who often finds herself wanting to wave the white flag in defeat?
  • Do they drain you, overwhelm you, steal your heart, break your heart and cause you more anxiety than you ever dreamed possible?
  • Do you long to fight pro-actively for your boys, but just don’t know how to get ahead of the daily battle?

If so, you’re not alone.

Pray passionately and purposefully for the hearts of your sons with the MOB Society in the month of October.

It’s been three years since our community last joined together in collective prayer for our sons. Prayer is the most important, most vital, most life-giving part of our parenting. Unfortunately, it’s also the most overlooked. Here’s the truth:

The best way a mom can enter the battle for the heart of her son is on her knees.

There are so many books out there today on the topic of parenting boys that I can’t count them. Nor do I have time to read them all. But even if I did, reading these books and putting the solid tools in them to work still doesn’t come with guarantees.

Knowing this, it becomes quite clear that there is only one thing we can do…

Plead with God.

Pray.

Today, I challenge you to pray passionately and purposefully for the hearts of your sons with the MOB Society in the month of October.

Register for the fall edition of 21 Days of Prayer for Sons, and…

  • Join with a community of thousands of boymoms just like you crying out to God for their sons.
  • Learn to cover, not hover.
  • Experience the value of praying intentionally for your sons.
  • Enjoy proactive mothering, as you seek God for your son’s every need.

Here’s how to join:

This challenge is based on the book Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most.

  1. Pick up your copy of Praying for Boys today.
  2. Commit to pray for your boy(s) for 21 days straight in the month of October following along here at the MOB Society for direction and inspiration.
  3. Subscribe to the MOB Society blog to make sure you get all of the challenge posts.
  4. Leave us a comment below indicating your commitment to join the challenge. Tell us about your “why,” for joining this challenge. What’s his name? How old is he? What are your hopes for him?
  5. Click this link to spread the word to other boymoms.

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Schedule:

September 26th, 29th, and 30th – together, we’ll prep for the challenge right here on the MOB Society blog, covering the first three chapters of Praying for Boys

October 1, 2014 - the prayer challenge begins and will run every weekday through the month of October here on the MOB Society blog.

October 30th – prayer challenge ends.

October 31st – we’ll provide a link-up for the bloggers among us—an opportunity to publicly share how God moved in your family through this intentional time of prayer.

Comments from previous participants:

“This challenge…has given me my joy back in mothering” ~LaToya

“Thank you for giving me a tangible method for transformation in my family!!” ~Anne

“Thanks, Brooke for your help. I’ve always known that God was listening; I just didn’t know what to say!” ~Laurel

“So many heart changes are going on in our home and I’m just so thankful…” ~Ashley

Plan to join us for the fall edition of 21 Days of Prayer for Sons!

We can’t wait to get started! For specific schedule details, and ideas for how to participate in the challenge, click here.