Gentleness (21 Days of Prayer for Sons)

A gentle answer turns away wrath. (Proverbs 15:1)
Our fourth son made his debut just weeks ago. We now have boys who are 16, 5, 3, and freshly born. I was sitting on the sofa nursing our infant when my teenager came in upset about something. I automatically replied in a quiet peaceful tone as a result of holding a newborn baby at the same time. Surprisingly, this situation did not escalate like it normally would have in the history of our intense mother/son relationship.
When did I turn the point from gentleness to explosiveness? At what moment did I decide that our child was old enough to endure a good loud argument verses the gentle response I had just given him? This verse, “A gentle answer turns away wrath…,” is one of the few I have memorized, yet why do I not follow its wisdom?
What God spoke to my heart while intentionally praying and considering what gentleness really means, is best understood by reading the Greek definition of the word: Gentleness = Power with reserve. As parents, we have the capability to overpower our children by yelling, screaming and using physical force as a response to misbehavior. True power comes when you are able to reserve your fleshly response and give them what they really need–gentleness.
Quite honestly, gentleness is not my first reaction to intense moments with my sons. Whether it is my teen that is in an argumentative mood or my younger sons who I have just told to stop wrestling for the fifth time in a row. Screaming at the top of my lungs to overpower the situation is what comes naturally. I hate to admit this, but being gentle in those situations takes a lot of work! I would not be able to do it without the help of the Holy Spirit. When you withhold wrath and display gentleness you have truly exercised power with reserve.
Think back to when your child was in infant and he would cluster feed every forty-five minutes for hours on end. You’re so exhausted that you don’t think you could endure even one more feeding and yet, we wouldn’t scream at that innocent infant to get him to submit to our needs. No, we gently pace the floor, we console, we rock, we pat them on the back, and we take as much time as is necessary to get through it. In 1 Thessalonians 2:7 it says, “But we were gentle among you, just as a nursing mother cherishes her own children.”
Jesus displayed the ultimate act of reserving power when He died on the cross for us. We deserved death, but he chose to die on the cross for us instead. The ultimate act of gentleness. Once we are able to display gentleness towards our children, they will begin display gentleness in their own situations.
Think of three or four places or situations where your boy needs to practice more gentleness. Talk to him about how he can be more gentle in each situation.
JanelleJanelle is a wife and stay at home mom of 4 who blogs at Queen of the House of Boys. James & Janelle own a business called Integrity Cleaning and Restoration. She is a pastor’s wife and praise and worship leader. Janelle recently retired as a retail store owner to fully embrace her calling as a mother. Bringing people together is one of Janelle’s gifts. Whether it is managing an online support group, or organizing mentors for new families in her children’s school.  Janelle loves decorating, diy projects, cooking, and hosting gatherings. She loves learning and practicing the true Biblical meaning of hospitality. Cleaning is her nemesis.

Faithfulness (21 Days of Prayer for Sons)

“Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope. Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” ~ Lamentations 3:21-23

I open the door to their room, switch off the nightlight and turn to the bunk bed where two boys are blinking against the light of day. I ruffle brown and blonde hair and tickle sides, trying to cajole them from the land of sleep into the world of awake.

“I don’t want to go to school today, Mommy,” the one on the top bunk groans.

The blue quilts must be particularly cozy on this cold morning, because both boys are struggling to get up. I start to sing over them.

Great is thy faithfulness, Oh, God my Father,

There is no shadow of turning with Thee.

Thou changest not, thy compassions they fail not,

as Thou hast been, Thou forever wilt be.

Great is thy faithfulness, Great is thy faithfulness,

Morning by morning, new mercies I see,

All I have needed, Thy hand hath provided.

Great is thy faithfulness, Lord unto me.

I sing over my boys, a reminder that God’s faithfulness is new every morning–a reminder that He doesn’t change. He promises to be with us, He never fails. His faithfulness is great.

Faithfulness — 21 Days of Prayer for Sons Challenge via The MOB Society


It’s scripture, it’s a song, it is a prayer I pray over them. Every morning, my boys are faced with new challenges. Will they get out of bed? Will they listen well to their teachers? Will they seek to bring glory to God? Will they use the gifts they have been blessed with as an offering back to Him?

“I say to myself, ‘The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for Him’ “. (Lam. 3:24)

I remind my boys that these words weren’t written when everything was going great for Jeremiah, the author of Lamentations. Quite the opposite really. Things were miserable for him and yet, he could speak of hope. He could say that the Lord was enough. He could choose to wait on God and his timing.

My boys won’t be faithful in the challenges of life if they don’t first understand the incredible faithfulness of God.

They are awake now as feet hit the floor and they begin to get ready for the day. Later, I hear the older one singing “Great is Thy Faithfulness” and I smile a secret smile.

May they understand your faithfulness and seek to be faithful in response, I pray, and may they know your compassions that are new EVERY morning!


How would you finish this statement? A faithful man is __________________ (fill in the blank).


beckyheadshot-faithfulnessBecky Daye is a pastor’s daughter, a pastor’s wife and a mom to four pastor’s kids. Her life is a series of sermon illustrations. A typical day involves dishes and laundry, cooking and cleaning, Bible study and lesson preparations, painting and playdough and always begins and ends with snuggles from her little ones. She writes about life and faith at

Cultivating Kindness (21 Days of Prayer for Sons)

May our sons live in harmony with others; may he be sympathetic, show brotherly love, and be humble. 1 Peter 3:8

My crew of boys and I stand in front of the slow-to-open elevators of our local Children’s Hospital, waiting patiently. As the door opens, a sweet mama with her crying baby and two toddlers begin to emerge. She’s weighed down by the various things we carry around as moms of young ones, but I’m struck by the heaviness of the burden she is shouldering deep within her heart. It’s written all over her face.

She needs a helping hand. Don’t we all?

Without hesitation, my four sons move to the side while my oldest boy holds the elevator doors open for this young family. And I silently thank God for molding their sweet hearts.

Kindness — 21 Days of Prayer for Sons Challenge via The MOB Society


An hour later this same mama of three crosses our path again on another floor of the hospital. We’re seated in the crowded waiting room and I notice that my sons see her making her way across the room, looking for a place to sit. There are no vacant seats and she is obviously exhausted.

These sons of mine, they all rise to their feet and motion for her to take their seats. And I’m near tears at the sight of my boys showing kindness out in the world to a perfect stranger and her sweet children.

But, at home, behind closed doors, familiarity seems to breed contempt and unkindness in all manner of ways. It saddens me deeply when my boys struggle to show love to the ones that are closest to them. And yet, don’t we all struggle with this very thing to some degree?


God got a hold of my heart on this one early on and is still working on me to this day. He reminded me that our homes, where we all feel safest, are the perfect training grounds for learning how to be kind toward one another. It’s where we can practice kindness and then seek forgiveness (and offer it) when we mess up.

 I’m convinced, now more than ever, that prayer is the one thing that can turn a house full of grumbling blessing-blockers around every time. But without prayer, we leave an open door for the enemy to sneak in and validate our unkind words. Satan likes to make us feel like our rights have been violated, doesn’t he. He loves to let us know it’s okay to be unkind toward someone if they are undeserving.

 We need to do battle on our knees against those lies.

 Kindness says, “Because God first loved me (while I was undeserving) and died on a cross to save my life, I, too, can show loving kindness to you…no matter what.”

 Kindness, it’s genuine love in action toward others (even if it’s undeserved). And loving others is one of God’s greatest commands. While God’s perfect Love makes us kind-hearted, it is also what leads one to willingly reach out and serve others.


Are there any ministries the Lord has put on your heart? If so, how can you involve your boy in them?

Throughout the day, pray the ten scripture prayers found at the end of the Kindness chapter in Praying for Boys!

Megan-SpiresMegan and her husband, along with their four young sons live in the beautiful state of Washington. As often as possible, she and her family spend their time outdoors exploring and discovering the beauty of God’s creation. Megan is passionate about encouraging moms in their faith, sharing resources and ways for families to connect and grow, and is inspired by others willing to share their real-life stories. She and her husband write about all this and more at Devotional Family, Facebook, Pinterest and Twitter.

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Praying for Patience (21 Days of Prayer for Sons)

“We also pray that you will be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need. May you be filled with joy, always thanking the father.” Colossians 1:11-12

My oldest son Noah has autism.  He’s about to turn ten, yet he still wears diapers to bed, throws tantrums when he doesn’t get his way, screams for no reason, constantly needs to make music on every hard surface and pushes my buttons in more than a million ways.

Of course, I love him a ton in spite of it all.

Patience — 21 Days of Prayer for Sons Challenge via The MOB Society

I’ve had to run through streets chasing him weaving in and out of the cars. I’ve had to ease siblings pain from his biting and hitting along with not disciplining him in a typical way for these behaviors because it’s not his fault. He doesn’t always know right from wrong even if he’s been told one million times.  And my patience through all of these years has worn thin. I’ve cried and prayed and yelled at God.  I’ve struggled through whys and hows.

Finally my acceptance of his diagnosis came through God’s grace. I had to( and still have to) pray for extra patience with him.  He is the epitome of a strong-willed child–strong in love and strong in character, yet also just a child.  And as he is learning about God, I’m praying his patience will grow.


Since that diagnosis six years ago, I’ve realized that I didn’t know what I was up against.  I had no idea the amount of angst, stress and terror I was about to go through in the coming years.  I started praying for myself when he was a toddler and had an additional newborn to care for.  As he got older I realized Noah needed my prayers, too.  Patience doesn’t come easy to any of us.  Those were some of the hardest days, since I was alone with a husband that worked so much.

Some days all that holds mom together is baby drool and God’s love (<<—Tweet that!)

Some days, all that holds a mom together is baby drool and God's love.


Later I could look back and see the therapists and friends that had been placed in my life in the beginning that helped me through. I had to be patient, not only with my son who I was learning about, but with God and his plans for us both. I have had to watch His plans for our life unfold as they happen and keep faith. This is not an easy thing for a Type A controlling mom.  I learned as a new mom and then a mom of a special needs child, patience was becoming a necessary action for each day.  Not only as something I did, but something I breathed.

I have to use patience with every breath I take when I’m with my son because when I forget about it, that’s when I lose it and my house becomes chaos.  My son then sees me and my sinful nature, not the loving mother filled with grace and love that I should be.  I try to talk with Noah about being patient and that mom has to be more patient too. I want him to know I struggle, too. I try to go through each day, sometimes good sometimes bad, praying for Gods strength to be with me.


Do you struggle with waiting on the Lord? How might this affect your son?

Throughout the day, pray the ten scripture prayers found at the end of the Patience chapter in Praying for Boys!

leighheadshot-patienceLeigh is wife to a hard workin’ man and mom to 3 crazy kids, one of whom is autistic.  She is a writer, special needs mom, bipolar survivor, furniture builder, organic food lover, coffee addict and Christ follower.  She loves her hubby, her coffee, her camera, her kids’ laughter, and her God. She blogs at

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Peace (21 Days of Prayer for Sons)

“So then let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding.” Romans 14:19

My life is anything but peaceful these days.

At any given moment you can find me prepping for my next meeting, chasing a 2-year-old who doesn’t seem to have an “off” button, juggling multiple projects for my freelance clients, and balancing the glue and tape for my preschooler as we complete our next homeschool lesson — all amidst wrangling our calendar and errands and family obligations. Sound familiar?

With the holidays right around the corner, I know the crazy factor in our lives is only going to ramp up, but I don’t want our lives to become a jumbled mess of hurrying from one activity to the next. I don’t want the background of my boys playtime to include me or my husband yelling from one room to the next for them to quiet down (ironic, right?). I have this overwhelming desire to start prioritizing peace in our lives and I know the only way my boys will learn to be peacemakers is if they see it lived out daily.

Peace — 21 Days of Prayer for Sons Challenge via The MOB Society

Lately, we’ve been struggling with our boys maintaining peace — they fight, grab toys from each other, and roar in each other’s faces on a daily basis. And while I know they still love each other fiercely, it’s starting to take a toll on the family. And then, it hit me — peace between my boys is almost always linked to the atmosphere of peace we create in our home.

Scripture tells us to “…pursue what makes for peace and mutual upbuilding.” And that little word, “pursue” is pushing me to action. I can’t passively wish for peace to enter my home, I have to actively chase after it and create it (<<—Tweet That). 

Here are some ideas I am working to implement in our home to accomplish that goal.


In the natural routines of our day, I want to create intentional moments of quiet for our family — simple reflections on Scripture over the breakfast table, a nap or hour of reading in the afternoon, tempering our play after the dinner hour to quiet activities — these all foster a calmer atmosphere. I also want to designate a special space in our home to be a safe place to go when you’re feeling crazy — yes, getting energy out is critical for boys, but sometimes you also need a fluffy chair and fuzzy blanket and a basket of books for 15 minutes before your brother beans you on the head again.


I struggle with worry and anxiety and I desperately do not want those elements of my character to become part of my legacy. I want my words to be uplifting, full of life, and seasoned with grace. Beyond checking my own self-talk and watching what I allow little ears in my home to overhear, I want to set up visual anchors throughout our home of God’s promises. I want to display those Truths throughout our house — on the whiteboard on the fridge, in a picture frame in the bathroom, on Scripture prints hung on a clipboard gallery wall. And I want to curate music collections and playlists that help foster a sense of peace — either lyrically or through the orchestration and arrangement — to provide our home with a soundtrack of tranquility.

Today, I’d love to bless you with some tools as you journey with me on the path towards a more peaceful home! I’ve designed this free, downloadable scripture art print just for you! Just click the image below! And feel free to use the playlist below as you go about your work and play today or use it as inspiration for building your own — it features 7 faith-based songs and closes out with 5 beautiful classical pieces.

FREE Printable Scripture Art from Finding Eden Media via The MOB Society


What are some ways you can establish an atmosphere of peace in your home? Do you have any tricks for encouraging peace between your boys?

Throughout the day, pray the ten scripture prayers found at the end of the Peace chapter in Praying for Boys!

Alle McCloskey of Finding Eden MediaMost people run on food, sleep and strong coffee to get through their day. We’re pretty sure Alle’s energy comes from pure shots of creativity (although, she’ll never turn down your offer for a Coke)! Her heart is fullest when she’s being an image-bearer of the Ultimate Creator with her design and branding work, writing, and music. Her day-to-day is filled with old children’s books, large doses of refrigerator art, life-giving music and the world’s best cuddles from her two favorite little people. She prays that by infusing her messy-but-beautiful nest with worship and creativity, they too will learn to become followers of the King. Passionate to see the online conversation filled with the redemptive work of Jesus, she and her husband document the creative journey of brand building and story crafting at