Locker Room Lessons: Team Player

Locker Room Lessons is a weekly series here at The MOB Society meant to help moms connect their sons’ love of sports with lessons on life and faith.
We’re smack dab in the middle of football season and I couldn’t be happier, but the NBA season just tipped off this month and there’s a great story to be told from last season from which we could all learn.
I don’t really have a basketball team I cheer passionately for, but when the San Antonio Spurs made the NBA Playoffs last year, I paid close attention. This was a team known for its talent and tradition, but that is not what made them special.
The Spurs won the 2014 NBA title without a mega-superstar like Lebron James or Kevin Durant. They didn’t have a single player in the top twenty for points scored last season, yet they became world champions. And it’s all because of one word:
TEAM.
If there is one thing the 2014 San Antonio Spurs will be remembered for, it is their teamwork. Don’t get me wrong – the Spurs starters were a great bunch, but it wasn’t all about them. The Spurs’ bench scored more points than any other team’s bench last season. Everybody was working hard and doing their part, whether they were a starter or not.
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I’ve seen it in every sport – a player doesn’t get named a starter and they pout on the bench. Some players, namely in the NFL this year, have even stormed off the field or mouthed off to the press because of their lack of playing time. Those players didn’t last long with the team they were on because they weren’t team players.
This wasn’t a problem with the Spurs. They were a team who played as a team and worked hard together – starters and non-starters alike – to earn that NBA title. And people noticed. People celebrated this idea that a team didn’t need to have the best player in the league to be the best team in the league.
I made sure my sons took notice as well. The Spurs were not “our team,” but we started watching and talking about the way this team was special. Our children will work and play on many teams in their lives. As we talked about with Tim Tebow, success doesn’t always like look being the superstar of a team, but rather doing your part to help your team succeed.
The ability to be a team player by exhibiting such qualities as cooperation, dedication, and encouragement will help our sons not only in school, sports, and jobs, but also in how they impact others for the Kingdom.
We were also able to talk about how we can be team players, especially in the body of Christ.
All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it. -1 Corinthians 12:27
I love this verse because it emphasizes that we each have a part to play as children of God. That is our most important team and every person is important to that team. It may look or feel like we’re on “the bench” because we’re not out in the mission field or speaking in front of large groups of people. For our sons, it may not come easy to them to share their faith or memorize Bible verses. This could be their equivalent of feeling like an unimportant or non-essential player on the team.
The Spurs picked each player on their team for a purpose. And when they all did what was asked of them, functioning as team players, they all succeeded. God placed each of us on His team for a purpose. Our role on the team is important even when it seems to be a lesser role compared to others.
We need to teach our sons to be faithful and dedicated to what God has asked them to do at school, on a sports team, at a job, no matter how small it seems. We never know how important that small role is in the grand plan of life or when we’ll be called “off the bench” to do something more because we were faithful in what seemed to be the small team role we were playing.
If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones. -Luke 16:10

How do you encourage your son to be a team player? Discuss with him the importance of his role in your family, at school, in activities, and in the body of Christ!

Erin MohringErin finds joy in her life as a Jesus-follower, doctor’s wife, mama to three handsome guys, writer at Home with the Boys, and co-founder of The MOB Society. She has a passion for healthy living, fashion, and encouraging families to form strong bonds based on faith!

Why #Ferguson Makes #PrayingForBoys More Important Than Ever

It’s a sweet book, my Praying for Boys. Mostly happy. Sharing stories of boys who are loved and taken care of, even if by imperfect parents.

They’re growing up with enough to eat, two parents in the home, the best education, clothing for each day of the week, and they don’t even know that racial tensions exist.

I told my oldest about a divorce in our family, and he said, “I didn’t know you could un-marry someone.” So innocent, even if he’s not.

And it’s why we have to pray.

People are asking why? Why do tragedies like Ferguson have to happen? Why can’t we all just get along? How can we save our boys? And my reply?

Lord Jesus, come quickly. Sin will always be sin, and the answer will always be Jesus. And it’s why we have to pray for our boys.

This is the world we live in, and I absolutely refuse to be afraid of it. Respect it, yes. Honor it, yes. Fear it, no. Because my God is so big, so strong, and so mighty, there’s nothing my God cannot do.

Right now.

Could He use this tragedy, no matter what side of it you’re on, to bring us to our knees in prayer for the hearts of our sons?

Could He cause a generation of moms and dads to stand up and say, “NO MORE! We refuse to leave our sons to chance! We WILL OPEN OUR EYES AND SEE what’s happening to our boys! We WILL FIGHT FOR OUR SONS from this day forward. We WILL BEG GOD to move on their behalf, and do everything we can to change the tide of this country as we commit to raising godly sons!”

I believe He can! Right now. Starting with me. Starting with you.

There’s no option. It’s no longer a question. There’s no time to waste. No time to think it over. No more time to fiddle around leaving things to chance while the enemy laughs in our face and steals away our sons. He only comes to kill, steal, and destroy. We MUST fight!

WE MUST PRAY.

Parents who pray for their children recognize their own inability to change their children’s hearts, and put their faith and hope in the God who can.

Right now. Right this moment. Pray for your sons. (<<—Tweet That). Is there ANYTHING more important than begging the God who made our sons to make a change?

The best way a mom can enter the battle for the heart of her son is on her knees. Do it NOW.

Right now, you can join over 10,000 other mothers of boys in the Praying for Boys 5-day prayer challenge. It’s free. We must pray.

“Lord, make a way for my son(s). In the name of Jesus, get their hearts. Open the eyes of their understanding and let them see God. Make them honorable men who passionately follow you all the days of their lives. Let them be world changers, if only in their own homes, as they die to themselves and live for you.”

Brooke McGlothlinBrooke McGlothlin is co-founder and President of Raising Boys Ministries. She’s a mother of two boys who believes God has chosen her to fight for the hearts of her sons. She can be found most often on her knees in prayer, not because she’s so holy, but because God is. Not because she knows how to raise godly men, but because God knows the plans He has for them.

A Written Record of Giving Thanks

Remember when your children were very young, still toddling around and life was one hectic party of trying to simply keep those small people from physical harm on any given day?

“Don’t touch that, it’s hot!”

“Why are you on top of the refrigerator? How did you even get up there?!”

“No. No, we do not eat dirt.”

“The toilet is not where we play.”

Those days were hard, weren’t they? It seemed like a never ending dance just trying to keep up with those small, curious, rowdy little men, and I remember thinking, “It has to get easier.”

My little ones are bigger now and in many ways it has gotten easier. For the most part everyone has figured out how to play without bringing physical harm to themselves (although I did find my oldest son RUNNING ACROSS THE ROOF the other day with a Nerf gun in hand. “But, Mooooommmm! I’m sniping.” He then proceeded to ask me if he could just jump off the roof instead of climbing back down the ladder. *face palm*)

Now, however, this parenting gig has entered into a whole new training. Now we are in the heart training, and some days it feels as though we are on a battlefield.

The biggest lesson my husband and I are working on with our children is teaching them thankfulness. Be grateful for for all that you’ve already been given. This is training that happens year round, but I love it when the Thanksgiving season rolls around because thankfulness is suddenly on high alert.

A Written Record of Giving Thanks via The MOB Society

A New Tradition

A few years ago, we began a yearly Thanksgiving tradition in which we write down everything for which we’re thankful throughout the month of November. I buy an 11×14 canvas at Michael’s and a few sturdy markers. We lay the canvas out on the counter at the beginning of the month. Throughout November, as we’re each struck with something for which we feel grateful, we write that down on the canvas so everyone can see.

I love everything about this new tradition, from the poor spelling and shaky penmanship of little hands, to seeing a true thankfulness for one another begin to spill out of their hearts.

My kids are like any other set of siblings. They fight like cats and dogs, and some days it seems like their bickering is unending. I often fret that they will grow up to loathe one another, but the Thanksgiving Thankfulness Canvases have given me a glimpse into the true love they have for one another.

“I am thankful for my brothers.”

“I am thankful for playing with my brother.”

“I am thankful for my family.”

These are just a few of the scribbles that cover the canvases, which I keep neatly stacked in a closet, and plan to hang on a wall someday when the kids are grown and gone, a reminder of the beauty in the battlefield.

A written record of thankfulness knits hearts and homes together.

Dear Lord, give us thankful hearts to see these hectic years as a gift. Help us as we work to teach our children how to love one another with grateful, thankful hearts.

 1.) How do you foster an attitude of thankfulness in your children year round?

2.) Do you have any specific Thanksgiving traditions in your family?

 

Kelli-StuartKelli Stuart is a writer and a mom of four who spends most of her days shuttling children from one event to another in her smokin’ hot minivan. For years, Kelli perfected the art of the starving artist by ghost writing, editing, and writing newsletters back when newsletters were actually printed on paper. In 2004 Kelli co-authored the book Dare 2B Wise with Joe White, and from there began to focus heavily on her own novel, which she hopes to see published in 2015. In 2008, Kelli discovered blogging when her youngest was a newborn. She launched her first site, Minivans Are Hot, as a way to write about the often baffling and hilarious business of being a mother knowing that if she didn’t laugh at life, she just might cry. She’s recently transitioned to a new space online where she loves connecting with creative-heart moms to encourage them to continue developing and using their creative gifts for God’s glory! You can now find her at KelliStuart.com — Kelli currently lives in Tampa, Florida with her husband, her children, and the glorious beach.

 

A Moment-By-Moment Kind of Thankful

As I sat in the vast auditorium, listening to the principal go over the events associated with Matt’s senior year, my mind wandered.  Wasn’t he just a colicky infant, seemingly tasked with keeping his older brothers awake all night? Wasn’t he just toddling around trying to be one of the big boys? Wasn’t he just consumed with building the biggest Lego castle that would reach all the way to the sky?

A Moment-By-Moment Kind of Thankful via The MOB Society

When your youngest is the only one left in the nest, you tend to spend a good bit of time reminiscing.  Feelings of wistfulness and pangs of regret can creep in. Since two sons have already sprouted up and out you realize you can’t put the brakes on this growing up and becoming a man thing that is happening before your eyes.

And you realize, you didn’t do a very good job of enjoying each mama moment.  When you are in the throes of temper tantrums, runny noses and sleepless nights, it is hard to imagine ever wishing every.single.one of those days back again.

I know

But, you will.

The next time you think you just can’t answer one more question that begins with the word “why” or you are bent low, wiping up the milk that was spilled on your newly mopped floor or you are returning your strong-willed four year old to the time out chair for the 15th time {that day}, know that you will miss the craziness of raising boys one day.

It’s okay to be exhausted and frustrated in the moment, but one tick of a clock and that moment becomes a mere memory. Ten years from now you will miss that same, exact moment in time.

One day when they are turning 17 and a senior in high school and you are realizing their time under your roof is coming to an end sooner than you or they ever imagined, you will look at the scrapbook (and all the photos you meant to put into a scrapbook) and you will be thankful for every single precious minute God gave you with your boys.

Because those days you lost your temper or crawled into bed thinking “I can’t do this another day” or wished for the day they would be seventeen and not need you so much–those are not what you or your son will remember.

He will remember the days you played H-O-R-S-E with him instead of doing the dishes, the days that you kissed his sweaty forehead when he was sick, and the days that you read that story for the 100th time.

You Mama, you will remember it all.

This parenting of boys is a privilege and an honor.  Every exhausting, adventurous moment is one that you will look back on and smile about.  How can you be grateful in the midst of the chaos of the younger years?  Here are a few things I encourage you to enjoy while your boys are small:

  • The “Mama, watch this” moments. Boys love to show off their bravery, whether it’s handing you a worm or jumping off the back of the porch.  I tended to wince and draw back from those moments as they were happening. Really, there’s nothing better than sharing in their discoveries and excitement.
  • The sibling rivalry moments.  I don’t know about you, but with three boys born within four years, there was quite a bit of arguing and competing for attention in the early days of La Casa Smallwood.  I remember how exasperated I would get at the bickering. Do you know that now I look back on those moments and chuckle (and so do my boys)?  We laugh at how I would make them sing “You are My Sunshine” to each other.
  • The repetitive moments.  Prayers before bed, the same breakfast request 365 days a year, watching Star Wars Episode V for the millionth time- those are all memories that you will one day hold very dear to your heart, regardless of how monotonous they seemed at the time.

I urge you to take stock of the everyday moments that have you feeling worn thin and fatigued. Ask God to show you the miracle of those moments now, instead of years from now.

 

How to Help Boys Fight Temptation (#BitsOfBrooke)

Today, I’m asking YOU to speak into a new project I have on the horizon.

Fill out this survey and receive the newest resource from Brooke McGlothlin, Co-Founder of The MOB Society (releasing soon!)

Well, it’s not brand new. It’s actually a resource I released several months ago, but I’ve never been 100% happy with the way it turned out.

Some of you may have it already, or you may have heard about it. It’s currently called It Is Written: Help Your Boys Fight Temptation with the Word of God.

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I don’t know, maybe that’s not 100% true. I love the heart of it, I just feel like there’s more to the story. It’s not finished, or not really all it’s supposed to be, and I want to make it all it’s supposed to be. (I’m not even happy with the design and title…I designed that. That’s what you get when I design something).

So I’m taking it off the market, and completely re-working it to make it a resource you can be proud of!

Here’s where you come in.

I’d really like you to help me get this resource right. Would you take a few minutes to think about the kind of resource that would really help you in this area, and answer a few questions for me? I’d like to know things like:

1. What kind of resource you want it to be (ebook, email challenge, interactive Bible study, etc).

2. What kind of things you want in it (all words, fewer words, hands-on, practical application, etc)

My desire is that as you answer the questions you’ll tell me exactly what the resource needs to be something that would really meet you where you are and give you the tools you need to help your boys fight temptation with the Word of God.

In other words, I want you to tell me how to make the book better.

Click here now to take the brief survey. As a thank you, whoever genuinely and thoughtfully takes the time to answer the questions will get a free copy of the resource after it’s updated. Be sure to leave your email address where it asks for it, so I can get it to you when it’s done!

Thank you in advance!

Brooke McGlothlinWant to hear more from MOB Society co-founder, Brooke McGlothlin?

Get a free copy of her ebook, Surprised by Life: Five Ways to Respond Well When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned when you subscribe to her free newsletter! And don’t forget to follow Brooke on Instagram for a free, simple family study on giving thanks during November!