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I'm the mom to three sons ages 26, 21, and 5 (with a whole lot of daughters mixed in there … which adds to the fun.) It's amazing to see wild boys grow into loving, strong men. It's also amazing to see them fulfill some of their dreams (or at least attempt some that didn't quite work out).
That's okay, too!
My oldest son is married to a wonderful young woman and has two great kids. My middle son finished his first novel. And my little guy … well, he still can't decide if he wants to be a fireman or policeman when he grows up. Of course, he has a lot more years!
The important thing isn't if our sons fulfill every dream, but rather that they keep dreaming. How do we help them do that?
1. Allow your son's dreams to grow with him.
It's easy for young kids to dream. “I'm going to be an astronaut,” but sometimes we feel as if it's our job to make our kids realistic. Don't fall into that temptation!
There is plenty in life that will help your son be realistic, so be the one who says, “What do you think it takes to be an astronaut?” “Let's read some books about astronauts?” and “What do you like best about that idea?”
Let your son talk even if his ideas seem crazy. Then, as your son grows let his dreams grow with him. Save money for space camp, watch movies about astronauts together, or point out other ideas that fit his natural gifting that he might not even be aware of.
2. Inspire your son.
The word inspire means, “fill (someone) with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative.” I love that word “fill.” Fill your son with ideas, with hope and with courage. Another definition of inspire is to “breathe in (air).” Remember when you're filling your son with ideas, hope and courage you're breathing in faith that someday he can achieve great things for God, himself, and the world.
3. Motivate your son.
It's easy to dream, but doing something about it is harder. What motivates your son? Charts? Praise? Cold hard cash? Help your son set small, achievable goals and then mark his progress. Soon you'll see that your son is able to motivate himself!
4. Lead your son.
Moms have to follow their dreams first. Kids can only follow where they are led. What are your dreams, Mom? What steps are you taking to fulfill them? How are you allowing God to work through you? How are you using your God-given gifts and talents? Your son can learn best how to follow and achieve dreams by watching you.
I started writing articles and (attempting to write) books when my oldest boys were in both under 5-years- old. They've been first-hand eye witnesses to what God has done in my life. At 45-years-old I'm now the author of over 55 books, and my boys are some of my biggest cheerleaders!
5. Pray over your child's dreams.
Does your child have a dream? If so, commit it to prayer. Pray that God will help you guide him. Pray that God's dreams will rise to the top. Pray that God will strengthen and guide your son. You never know how God will use that wild child for His future glory!
About the Author
Tricia Goyer is a homeschooling mom of ten, grandmother of two, and wife to John. A bestselling author, Tricia has published 55+ books to date and has written more than 500 articles. She is a two time Carol Award winner, as well as a Christy and ECPA Award Nominee. Tricia is also on the blogging team at TheBetterMom.com and other homeschooling and Christian sites.
Tricia volunteers around her community and mentors teen moms. She is the founder of Hope Pregnancy Ministries in Northwestern Montana, and she currently leads a Teen MOPS Group in Little Rock, AR. Find her blogging at triciagoyer.com, or on Facebook. Her newest book, Planted with Hope, is designed to help you dream, and plant seeds of hope in your heart!
As many of you know, I come from a long line of boymoms, most notably, my paternal grandmother, Cack, who raised three boys to become good men mostly alone.
I've said before that I would love to have just another hour with her to ask all the questions about how she did it.
- How does a mom grab and keep the hearts of her boys, demand their respect, and teach them to be men?
- What in the world does a mom do when that thing starts happening?
- How does a mom teach her sons to be stayers in a world full of leavers?
- What does a mom do when her son starts noticing girls?
Of course, there are other questions I have that she couldn't have answered, like...
- How do I intentionally preserve my boys' imagination and creative thinking in a world of electronics?
- How do I protect them from pornography?
- How do I discipline in a world that frowns on most all forms of it?
And then there are questions I just plain wouldn't have had the foresight to ask. How could I have imagined I would need to know things like...
- How do I get my baby to sleep through the night?
- What natural alternatives are there to help keep my son healthy?
- How do I teach my son to love Jesus in a world so hostile to absolute truth?
I may never be able to ask my beloved grandmother to give me wisdom on raising boys, but these, and other questions like them, are answered by moms every single day on the MOB Society Facebook page in our Question from a Boymom feature.
We've hosted Question from a Boymom for years now, and it's consistently been one of our most popular features on our Facebook page. It's been a joy to see moms support each other, love on each other, pray for each other and give wisdom to each other.
But we've noticed a couple of negative side effects along the way.
Sometimes, the questions are super personal, and moms don't feel comfortable answering in a public forum (where all their friends can see what they write).
Because the MOB Society attracts moms who are in all stages of their Christian faith, some who don't profess faith in Christ at all, we've seen some well-intentioned moms forget that not everyone is as far along in their faith, and say things that sting.
Because of this, we've decided to make a big change to this popular feature. Don't worry, it's not going away!
At the beginning of June, we're moving it inside the safety of our Tribe membership program.
Because we utilize a private Facebook group, we can provide moms with a safe space to ask any questions they have, and provide answers that will be for Tribe member eyes only. We feel it's of the utmost importance to offer a place where moms can support each other, and ask each other important questions. Never before in history has there been so much help and wisdom available to moms! With the click of a mouse, you can access wisdom, prayer, and the experience of other moms who have gone before you, specifically, boymoms who speak your language and are walking your walk.
You'll still be able to participate in the Question from a Boymom feature on Facebook through the end of this month, so please feel free to take advantage of it! Also, we'll be leaving all of our previous featured questions on our Facebook page, so if you feel like searching for a particular kind of question, you're welcome to any time!
Beginning June 1, 2016, you'll need to be a member of the Tribe to participate.
If you'd like to study up on the benefits of Tribe membership (and mama, they are a plenty), click here. For just $5 a month, you have access to a multitude of helpful items, including our exclusive monthly #prayingforboys prayer calendar! It's worth $5 all by itself, but you get a bunch of other helpful tools, too!
We can't wait to see you inside!
To kick off this new season for the Tribe, we'll be hosting a major Question and Answer session inside of our Tribe Facebook group in the first part of June (date announced soon). Many of the MOB Society writers plan to be there to answer as many of your questions about raising boys as they can, so join the Tribe right away and plan to be there! Click the red box below to learn more about Tribe membership!
About the Author
Brooke McGlothlin is Co-founder and President of The MOB Society, author of Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most, co-author of Hope for the Weary Mom: Let God Meet You in the Mess, and the Hope for the Weary Mom 40 Day Devotional. She's also creator of the Fight Like a BoyMom Program, and a mother of two boys who believes God has chosen her to fight for the hearts of her sons. Her newest book, Not Enough, releases from Waterbrook Multnomah in the fall of 2017.