Meet The Team! | Monica Swanson

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Welcome to our video series, Meet The Team! Each day this month, we want to introduce you to one of our incredible writers from The MOB Society in the hopes that you’ll get to know them better, see the face and voice behind the words on the screen, and give them a chance to share their heart for equipping and encouraging BoyMoms just like you!

 

 

Today, we’d like to introduce you to Monica Swanson — Aloha! Monica has served on the writing team for two years and hails from Hawaii! Her four boys range in age from 4-15 years old and she homeschools the oldest three! Her boys are surfers and for the past three years, she’s blogged over at thegrommom.com about their active beach life. Recently, she has recently transitioned to MonicaSwanson.com where her heart’s desire is to write and encourage families — in the hard, but worth-the-work areas of parenting and marriage. She advocates finding balance in life — finding ways to care for yourself while serving and loving others! Now that her two oldest are in their teen years, she’s starting to see the fruit of the prayers and time she poured into them as they make choices that honor God and become young men of integrity. She encourages all of us in the trenches to hang in there during the hard days, keep close to our boys, and live well in our current season of motherhood.

 

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Meet The Team! | Tricia Goyer

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Welcome to our video series, Meet The Team! Each day this month, we want to introduce you to one of our incredible writers from The MOB Society in the hopes that you’ll get to know them better, see the face and voice behind the words on the screen, and give them a chance to share their heart for equipping and encouraging BoyMoms just like you!

 

 

Today, we’d like to introduce you to Tricia Goyer — Like many in our BoyMom community, Tricia wears a lot of hats…she’s a homeschooling mama of 6 children (ranging from 3-25 years old), she’s an adoptive mama, she’s a wife, a blogger (TriciaGoyer.com), a speaker, and an author of 45 books! While pregnant with her first at 17 years old, Tricia dedicated her life to God and began a journey of motherhood that has brought her closer to Him everyday. She knows the overwhelm that can come from parenting boys, but has learned to depend upon God and seek Him through prayer and time spent in His Word. With two of her sons grown, Tricia is seeing the fruit of all the time, effort, and prayers she’s poured into them over the years as they use their unique gifts for God’s glory. In writing for The MOB Society community, Tricia offers a unique perspective as she parents her youngest boy alongside the rest of us and shares lessons learned from her years of parenting her oldest two!

 

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what to do when their energy trumps their brain (and heart) #BitsOfBrooke

It’s been raining for days here in Virginia, and our last week before school starts has been tough. I wanted to spend it at the pool, but the weather hasn’t let us get there in over a week. Two high energy boys cooped up in a house for over a week makes for some hard days. Can I get an amen?

They’re literally bursting with the need to move, and that often ends up with someone hurt or something broken. Tuesday, my youngest ran SIXTY laps around the cul-de-sac. It’s a method of discipline we use when the behavior stems from pent up energy. When my boys get like this they seem to lose the ability to control themselves. Their bodies betray them, and in a matter of thirty seconds flat they’ll be rolling around on the ground wrestling, or throwing pillows at each other, or just doing laps around my living room, oblivious to the destruction they leave in their wake.

So what’s a mom to do when her son’s body is trumping his brain?

Do your boys have more energy than you can handle? Here are five tips from a mom of high energy boys!

 

Here are five things that help us at The McGlothlin Home for Boys:

1. Understand that it’s a battle.

I realize there’s a physical root to their disobedience. Their bodies must be in motion, and sometimes, their bodies trump their minds and hearts. They’re not necessarily trying to be disobedient, but at seven and nine, they can’t always tell their bodies what to do and get instant results. The order of the day is understanding and grace, and a heavy dose of physical activity. It’s important to communicate that we understand their body’s need for activity is hard to overcome, but there comes a time when we just have to do the hard things anyway.

Understanding and compassion go a long way toward helping the difficult things bring a mama closer to her son instead of driving them apart.

2. Create opportunities for physical activity however you can.

We run laps. A lot of them. Sixty of them throughout the day until their bodies are finally void of it all and they can truly listen and obey, and sometimes that’s still not enough. My husband runs about three miles a few times a week, and we decided to see if our youngest could keep up with him. I sat by the phone, ready to jump in the car and come get him if it was too much, but the phone call never came. He paced my husband step for step, and when they got home he was still bouncing, ready to go. The activity didn’t drain him, it energized him even more. Have mercy.

Swimming is one of the best physical activities for our boys. Think how hard their little legs and arms work under the water. They come home exhausted every time we go to the pool. This fall, as we look forward to a new homeschooling year, I’m seriously thinking about joining the health club down the street so I can take them to the pool to swim laps first thing in the morning.

Get creative and think outside the box. Find an activity that wears your boys out, and stick with it.

3. Keep your anger in check.

If there’s anything that makes me want to lose my temper, it’s the “noise, noise, noise!” and the constant wrestling. I can’t tell you how many things in our home have gotten broken because of my rough-and-tumble boys. Doors (at least 3), cabinets, shelves, light fixtures, tables (and only by the grace of God, NOT my beautiful glass china cabinet my dad had made for me). It drives me crazy when they don’t respect our home, but letting my emotions control me doesn’t help the problem, it only teaches them to lose their emotions, too.

Get a grip on yourself before reacting to their mess. Show grace when you can, and remember that because Jesus loved you in spite of your shortcomings, you can extend that love to them.

4. Diffuse Lavender in the main room of your house.

Or wherever they spend the most time. Lavender has known sedative properties. I rub it on my boys’ pillows before bed, and put several drops in the spray bottle of water we use to tame the evil bedhead (I like to call it a shot of “calm it down, boy.”) I don’t diffuse it every day, but when things get crazy in our home, it’s my go-to to take the edge off.

5. Set healthy expectations early in the day.

The morning after our sixty lap marathon it was still rainy. I knew the possibilities of another hard day were high, so when my boys woke up raring to go (as they always do), I gently sat them down and reminded them that the cul-de-sac was still there. I set the bar reasonably high, telling them what my expectations were for the day (i.e. “I know it’s hard, do it anyway”) and let them know I believed that with Jesus’ help, they could do it.

I think that’s the key to making this little exercise be more than just a way to control your boys. The bottom line is that there will be things they don’t feel they can do for the rest of their lives—hard things that threaten to master them instead of the other way around. If we build a sense of “everything in life that’s worth anything requires hard work,” with a heavy dose of, “you must ask Jesus to help you overcome the hard things because you can’t do it yourself,” we’ll be that much further ahead in teaching them how to be godly, hard-working men who overcome in the name of Jesus.

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Meet The Team! | Kristina Tanner

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Welcome to our video series, Meet The Team! Each day this month, we want to introduce you to one of our incredible writers from The MOB Society in the hopes that you’ll get to know them better, see the face and voice behind the words on the screen, and give them a chance to share their heart for equipping and encouraging BoyMoms just like you!

 

 

 

Today, we’d like to introduce you to Kristina Tanner — Kristina Tanner loves the resource and encouragement that is found in the MOB Society community — knowing that there are others mamas out there to come alongside and say, “It gets better,” or “I’ve been there, too” can provide the breath of fresh air we all need. Kristina admits that parenting her 7yo boy can bring out the areas of motherhood where she feels she is incapable — parenting boys is different and at times can be difficult and perplexing! As a single-mama, Kristina resonates with the story of Hagar in the Bible and hopes that her role on The MOB Society writing team points other BoyMoms in similar situations to the “God Who Sees.”


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Meet The Team! | Kelli Stuart

Meet The Team! at The MOB Society

 

Welcome to our video series, Meet The Team! Each day this month, we want to introduce you to one of our incredible writers from The MOB Society in the hopes that you’ll get to know them better, see the face and voice behind the words on the screen, and give them a chance to share their heart for equipping and encouraging BoyMoms just like you!

 

 

Today, we’d like to introduce you to Kelli Stuart — This mama of 3 with one on the way loves sharing the journey of motherhood with the community of BoyMoms here at The MOB Society. Recognizing that the life of a mom isn’t glamorous, but so rewarding, Kelli has shared her thoughts on the hilarity of motherhood for the first 6 years of her freelance writing and editing career over at MinivansAreHot.com. Now, she’s transitioned to a new stage of connecting and writing at KelliStuart.com where she loves pouring into mothers with creative hearts — the ones who have a deep love the arts and who have gifts in the areas of music, art, writing, and other creative endeavors. She hopes to encourage them to continue developing and using their creative gifts in the midst of motherhood and offer them back to God as a praise offering.

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