Armed With Truth (A Giveaway)

The dank basement was dark and it was one of my least favorite chores to venture into it to either grab something from the freezer or restart the dryer.  Only one thing made it even the least bit more bearable–reciting scripture.  I’d turn the corner to the basement stairs and creep down them all the while muttering, “The Lord is my shepherd,” or variations of, “For God so loved the world.”  They were some of the only scriptures I new at the time, but I knew their power and there was something calming about reciting them aloud when fear threatened to overwhelm.

Armed With Truth Giveaway July

I attended a private school and Bible memory was both expected and graded.  There are differing views on whether or not scripture memory should be a requirement, however I don’t think there is anything negative that can come from scripture memory.  Our brains are incredibly amazing systems, designed by and all-knowing God.  If we can do the legwork of memorizing the scripture, I’m confident that in times of need, God will allow those verses to resurface and aid us.

Armed with Truth makes temporary scripture tattoos to help kids (and moms!!!) {Ok, let’s just be honest–ANYONE could benefit from wearing these tattoos!} commit scripture to memory.  They have ten-packs for sale with topics such as missions, identity, and being Christlike.  They also have an awesome designer series which is more image-based.

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Today we’re excited to offer TWO $15 store credits this month for use at ArmedWithTruth.com   All you have to do is leave a comment on the blog to enter.  You can comment about anything, but we’d love to hear a scripture that’s special in your life or the life of your boy(s).  Also, please feel free to share this via the web as well as check out the website to drool over all the fabulous designs.

P.s.–these make great stocking stuffers or party favors ;-)

**Giveaway closes July 31, 2014 at 11:59 PM**

Open Position at the MOB Society! Calling All Titus 2 Moms!

Are you a mom who has raised her children well?

Did you raise them from a distinctly biblical worldview, sharing the Gospel with your life?

Are you committed to helping the next generation of moms learn to love their husbands and children?

Do you have a passion for coming alongside young mothers, offering them your wisdom and even your life for the cause of investing in the future?

Are you familiar with the behind-the-scenes of blogging?

Do you know your way around Social Media?

If so, please pray about joining our MOB Society Leadership Team as our Titus Two Team Ministry Head!

Our current ministry head, Gina Smith, has stepped down. She’ll keep writing in the series, but can’t lead us anymore. We really want this vital ministry to continue, so if you’re interested in joining our team, please send an email to themobsociety@gmail.com. Include the following things:

  1. Your understanding of and vision for Titus 2 ministry as outlined in the Bible.
  2. A brief testimony of your parenting experience and where your children are now.
  3. Your experience with blogging and social media.
  4. Why you would like to be chosen for this position.

We’ll prayerfully sift through all applications as quickly as possible, and God-willing, choose someone to take up the mantle! Thank you!

 

 

Letting Go In Spite of Fear

He’s completely outfitted in baseball gear.  The grey pants are just a wee bit too big on his gangly frame and his blue Lego shirt doesn’t quite fit the athletic camp, but he loves it and it’s going to be a hot day.  Yesterday I walked him into the complex, met his coaches, slapped him on his back and walked away.  Two and a half hours later I came back and picked up an ecstatic, confident boy beaming from the praise garnered from attentive coaches and helpers.

Letting Go in spite of Fear

The next day dawned and after the morning craziness I pulled into the parking spot closest to the door.  Breathing deeply, I turned to Ro,

“So bud, you ready for this?”

“Yep!” he assured me.

“What’s my phone number, in case there’s a problem?”  He rattled off the seven numbers faster than I expected.  I had no more excuses.  “Ok, bud, have a great time and I’ll be here to pick you up after practice.  Swing hard, run fast.”  He kissed my cheek, hopped out of the van and strutted towards the door.

He did it. I did it.

Walking into practice may not seem like a huge deal to you, but to me it was epic.  I wasn’t sure if my son made it the fifty-five or so steps into the building and onto the turf with his coach, but after a good five minutes of sitting in the parking lot to assure myself that he didn’t need to come back out, I drove away, trusting that obviously everything was kosher because no one had informed me otherwise.

I’m a fearful girl.  It’s weird to even write that, but it’s the truth.  My imagination can get the best of me without even trying.  The what if’s  overwhelm and I can come up with every scenario from plausible to statistically improbable.  If it’s on the continuum I can probably concoct it, but I don’t say that proudly.  No, it’s something I’ve really had to work on.  Today was one of those days–the one where I decide to put all my praying into practice and let my son take a wee step into becoming a more responsible boy.  Instead of unbuckling two toddlers and hauling the infant carrier into the complex, I’m letting him walk in by himself and Lord knows I don’t feel ready, but he is and quite frankly, he has to learn to do this sometime.

I want to be perceived as a good mom as well as actually PERFORM as a good mom.  Partner that natural desire with my personality (INTJ and a 1 on the Enneagram) and you have a recipe for skyhigh expectations and a fear of failure or anything less than perfection. This makes me extremely neurotic at times which can be both good and bad, but I hate to fail and what’s the worst thing to fail at:  motherhood.

A good mom doesn’t let her child fail.  A good mom doesn’t allow her child to get hurt.  A good child doesn’t let her child walk there alone or do that or a good mom hovers and never lets her child out of her sight.  All of these expectations and more swirl in my head, and I become more and more fearful of letting mys on spread his wings because WHAT IF…AND THEN?  The fear and anxiety can drive a girl crazy.

LOVE > FEAR

He’s got crazy bright eyes that widen as he smiles and presently he’s missing one of his front teeth while the other adult tooth protrudes through his gums.  His smile is all sorts of wacky and heartwarming.  He’s all big brother to three girls and little brother to one and yet his boy-ness always makes itself known.  Already wanting to protect us, he volunteered to ‘get his bat’ yesterday when we found a rogue woodchuck trying to inhabit our shed.  (For the record we live in the city-ish…so a woodchuck in the shed was a big deal.)  I love this little man-child fiercely and my first instinct is to hold tightly and control.  To grasp onto and protect because that’s what mothers do, right?  They keep their offspring safe.

I look at my hands and they’re just flesh.  There’s a scar where I burned my hand while baking cookies for that man-child and my body shows the wear and tear of five babies grown and birthed and I’m reminded that I am just his mother and while that is a very important job, it is not all-powerful.  No, indeed, I am not his Savior and no matter how much I plan and control and send lunches and worry my little heart off, I cannot offer everlasting hope to my Son.  No, there’s only one who can do that.  In fact He’s already done that.

So today, I sit in my car.  He’s going to walk himself into baseball camp again and Lord knows I’ve prayed about it and he’s ready for it and I’m kind of ready for it, but he has to walk anyways.  Fist bump and a hug and he’s out my door and quickly through another one.  My prayers follow him like vapors jetting out from a comet and my eyes linger as I whisper one last remembrance, “He’s Yours.”

 

Five Ways to Make the Bible Come Alive #BitsOfBrooke

In today’s #BitsOfBrooke, I’d like to answer a question I get a lot from moms who truly believe the Bible is true, but have no idea how to make it their source of strength and power. In other words…

“I believe God’s word is true, but now what? How do I take it from just being a book of words to truly changing my life?”

5 ways to make the Bible come alive

If you’re in a season where the Bible seems dry to you, or are a new Christian trying to figure out how to really live out the words you’re reading there, maybe these five steps will help?

Five Ways to Make the Bible Come Alive

1. Open it

When my oldest son first started playing the fiddle, he wasn’t very good. He was pretty terrible the next day, too, and even a few weeks after his first lesson. He learned to play Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star pretty quickly, but little violins have terrible sound quality, so he still sounded pretty bad.

Now, almost five years later, he’s performed Ode to Joy in front of 500 people with his little brother and is gearing up to compete in a local fiddler’s convention this summer.

Get in the habit of spending daily time in your Bible, even if it’s just to read a Psalm and a Proverb. It may not come easily, but just as my son needed time spent practicing his instrument to improve, we need time in the word of God to begin trusting that it’s true.

2. Know it

As you spend more and more time reading your Bible you’ll see something amazing start to happen! You’ll find yourself thinking about or living in a certain situation when a verse you just read (that applies to what you’re going through) will pop in your head! That’s God! That’s the word being alive and active in you! And it’s amazing.

I can’t count the number of times I’ve been comforted by a verse at just the right time. Whether God drops it in my heart, or the heart of a friend, He chooses to use His word to comfort, correct, sustain, and build us right when we need it most.

But if we don’t open it, and don’t know it, that won’t happen.

3. Speak it

When I was younger I battled fear. One of the ways I went to war against this attack of the enemy was to speak God’s word out loud, and even though God has given me a significant measure of healing in this area, I still speak Bible verses out loud when I’m afraid.

My favorites are Psalm 4:8 and Psalm 23:4

“In peace I will both lie down and sleep; for you alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety” (this one gets spoken when I’m trying to fall asleep), and “Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me” (I use this one when I’m walking into a dark house alone and feel threatened). 

Sometimes, I even just say Jesus’ name out loud, because it’s the name above all names (Philippians 2:9-11) and is mighty to save (Zephaniah 3:17).

Speaking a verse or two out loud—whether you’re afraid, or confused, or hurt—reminds us of what’s true, and has the power to make peace settle in ours hearts.

4. Use it

Ya’ll know about my fascination with sticky notes, right? If you come to my house, you’ll see them all over. Written on them are Bible verses that focus my attention on Jesus, and help me remember what’s true. I have them strategically placed in the house where I need them most. For example, there’s one in the bathroom to remind me that my greatest need is Jesus. Why? Because the bathroom is where I tend to go when I want to lock myself away.

I also have my favorite scriptures printed out and framed around our house. I use them as reminders and as prayers. When I walk by my sons’ room, I pray Psalm 92:4 because it’s hanging in a frame outside their room. These are simple, inexpensive ways to fill our hearts (ours and our family’s) with the word of God. I can’t necessarily afford those beautiful framed scriptures from my local Christian bookstore, but I can afford a $5 frame from Walmart, and a little ink from my printer.

5. Love it

This one may be the most important of all, because loving God’s word starts with loving Him. If we don’t have a deep sense of gratitude and love for God, we won’t love His word (<<—Tweet That!).

Five Ways to Make the Bible Come Alive

How do we “fall in love” with God? For me, it’s a simple matter of remembering all He sacrificed for me while I was still stuck in sin (Romans 5:8). I’m so grateful for forgiveness from my sin, so grateful that I’m not who I was, so grateful to have right standing before the Lord, so grateful that I can call on Him, so grateful that He sees me and loves me, so grateful that He protects me and provides for me…so grateful that all I can do is love Him.

Because of that, I want to know Him, know His character and His ways, to the best of my ability. I love His word, the Bible, because it’s how I get to know Him better and learn about His great love for me.

The Bible has amazing power to transform our lives when we open it, know it, speak it, use it, and love it.

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Screen Shot 2014-06-30 at 11.05.14 PMBrooke McGlothlin is the co-founder of the MOB Society, author of Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most, and co-author of Hope for the Weary Mom: Let God Meet You in Your Mess (releasing from Harvest House in February 2015). Get a free copy of her ebook, Surprised by Life: Five Ways to Respond Well When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned when you subscribe to her free newsletter.

 

 

Parenting Well With No Blueprint

Are you a mom whose childhood is filled with heartache and disappointment due to your parents’ choices? Maybe your childhood was plagued with abuse, neglect, legalism, divorce, abandonment, a dysfunctional home or anger etc. Do you desire a different family environment for your own children than the one you grew up in? Is there a deep longing in your heart to break the generational sins and strongholds of your family?

I know all too well that coming from a background immersed in pain and brokenness can leave you feeling less than qualified to be able to parent your children well. How are you supposed to know how to be a good mom and point your children to Christ when it was never modeled to you? Hear me when I say this–your parents’ mistakes, bad choices, lack of love–their story does not have to be yours. Let Him redeem your story. Let Him use you to break the cycle.

If you want real change in your home and in your families the change needs to start with you.

Parent Well With No Model

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Does God reign in your heart? You cannot make these changes on your own strength and wisdom. You must be a follower of Jesus Christ. You must be a woman who studies his word, who communes with Him through prayer, and who seeks His kingdom first.

Seek first His kingdom and all these things will be added unto you. (Matt. 6:33)

If you are a follower of Christ as I stated above your parents’ mistakes, your pain filled childhood and even your own mistakes do not define you. You are new creation in Christ. Since you are a new creation press forward and don’t dwell on the past.

                  Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away, and look, new things have come. 2 Corinthians 5:17

It’s so easy to tether ourselves to past hurts and pain. It’s easy to drop anchor there and harbor grudges and resentment. Some of us may feel if we forgive, the pain is somehow no longer real or maybe we feel that by not forgiving we are punishing those that hurt us. Don’t listen to the lies of the enemy. The enemy doesn’t want you to forgive, but God tells us to forgive as Christ forgave you. Refusing to offer forgiveness is destructive and can cause bitterness. Bitterness in your heart then spills over into your parenting.

Christ is your model

When you have only seen something done one way it is hard to imagine it being done a different way. Although you may not have had an earthly parent that modeled God’s design for families, God himself modeled it to you. This is why it is so important that you have a viable prayer life and that you draw from the living well of His word. You can’t read His word and not be changed. It breathes life to the soul and softens the hardest of hearts. Press into the one who can give peace and teach you how to love. He demonstrates love, patience, self-control, grace, compassion, discipline and is slow to anger with all of His children.

Parenting choices need to be rooted in Godly wisdom, not fear

Those of us who have this type of past, who so desperately desire to parent differently can have a bent towards making choices for our family that are rooted in fear or even legalism. The moment you begin make parenting choices rooted in fear is the moment you say you trust yourself more than you trust the Lord. You are saying He is not enough. But God says He will give us wisdom if we only ask. (James 1:5)

Heart to heart

There is not enough allotted space to be able to write everything I want to write. If you are a woman whose heart is still tender from the pain you experienced growing up. I wish I could say this to you while looking you in the eyes. Sister, I’ve been there. I know the longing of wanting to hear your parent say “I love you” only to be met with silence. I grew up with abuse, lack of love, a home filled with anger, divorce, and watched one of my parents abandon our family for their own selfish venture.

Our parents are sinners. Forgive them anyways.  Our parents are also not our savior, nor can our joy be rooted in their choices and love. Plant your feet on firm foundation, which can only be found in your Savior, the one who is a father to the fatherless. He loves you with an unconditional love that we cannot possibly comprehend.

Prayer

Father,

Give us the wisdom to parent our children well. Break the cycles of generational sins and strongholds. Give us patience. Fill our homes with peace. Let love be overflowing in our homes. Lord reign in our hearts. Thank you for the love you demonstrate to us. Amen

Resources

Parenting resource- Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick

How to study the bible – Women of the Word by Jen Wilkin