How Will They Know Unless You Show Them

One afternoon while playing at a local park my oldest son got locked in one of the bathrooms. He was playing on the slide with his brother when suddenly he ran by me yelling that he had to go. About 10 minutes later I realized that he hadn’t made it back to the park so I went to check on him. He was sitting on the floor of the bathroom right by the door, crying because he couldn’t get out. He had tried calling for me but soon realized that I couldn’t hear him. So he started to cry.

It took about 5 more minutes to get the door open and my son into my arms so I could wipe his tears away and hug him. When he finally did get out he said “Mommy I was crying because I was scared, but I knew that God would save me. I prayed for Him to send you to get me out. I knew He could hear me even if you couldn’t.”

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Prayers from the Bathroom Floor

I often ask God why I’ve had to walk the long, hard road of being a single mom.  It’s a lot of work. I’m constantly exhausted, I have very little time for myself and I always feel like I’m one step from either losing my sanity or ruining my boys permanently.  I remember many nights locking myself in the bathroom, turning on the exhaust fan and crying my eyes out.  “Why, Lord? Why me? I can’t see a way out of this situation. There’s no one to help me.”

Have you been there before dear friend? Are you there now?

When my son found himself in scary situation at the playground he did the one thing that he knew would save him. He literally cried out to God for help. How did he know to do that?

From his mommy. That broken, weary woman that sat on her own bathroom floor in despair had taught her son to cry out to the One who could always hear him.  That day at the playground God answered my prayers of desperation from the bathroom floor.

Why me?

Because my boys need to know that when things are as bad as they can get, there’s always hope to be found in our heavenly Father.

A Shift In Focus

I have learned that God uses the hard things in our lives to bring us into a closer relationship with Him.  I firmly believe that God has great plans and purpose for my life, but the only way that I’m going to get there is by staying as close to God as I can get on this side of Heaven.   As you spend more time in prayer at the throne and digging into God’s word your focus will change from all the bad and hard stuff that’s going on towards the One that can see you through it all.

I know that we sometimes think that we don’t have the time for prayer and Bible study but the truth is that we have to make time.  Even if it’s just a few minutes a day. Some time with God is way better than none at all.  Here are some tips to help you make the most of your time with God:

  1. Keep all your supplies in one place. I have a quiet time basket with everything that I need for devotions and prayer
  2. Listen to the Word:  I have a Bible app on my kindle and my phone that lets me listen to scripture when I’m on the go. I listen while I do laundry, get dressed, cook dinner or while I’m driving in the car
  3. Bookend your day with God: I try not to let my feet hit the floor in the morning or my head hit the pillow at night until I’ve spent a few minutes in scripture and prayer. It doesn’t have to be very long. Sometimes I find one verse and I read it, turn it into a prayer and meditate on it all day long.

A prayer for you:  Dear Lord, life gets hard and messy and sometimes we put you on the back burner. Forgive us Lord and help us to find our way closer to you.  Open our minds and our hearts to your grace and love.  Draw us closer to you so that we can point our boys in the right direction when troubles come in their lives. Amen.

LaToya-EdwardsLaToya Edwards has a heart for equipping and inspiring women to find their passion and purpose through life coaching. You can find her blogging about homeschooling, single parenting and learning to find God’s purpose and plan in broken circumstances at www.LaToyaEdwards.net .

Welcome to Titus Two Saturdays (TTS) at the MOB Society!

We know so many of you are desperately in need of an older mama to come alongside you and help you figure out how to love your husband well, serve your children, and take care of the responsibilities that come along with being a woman. Doesn’t there seem to be a shortage of godly women stepping up to this role?  Well, we have brought  together a team of amazing women willing to share their lives with those of us in the throes of young motherhood.

This week we would like to introduce you to one of our Titus Two Team!

Meet Tracey!

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While Tracey Eyster says she doesn’t like to take herself too seriously, she is incredibly earnest when it comes to coaching moms to be relational, intentional and selfless in their homes and communities. Married to Bill for 27 years and the mother of two, Tracey is the Founder and Executive Director of  MomLifeToday.com, where millions of moms have gathered together from every stage of life to find encouragement and community.

Tracey is also the creator and host of the MomLife Bootcamp  events. This weekend getaway provides an opportunity for moms to take a respite from their everyday responsibilities and find refreshment for their journey through worship, teaching, outdoor fun and fellowship.

A self-described, “bubble-blower, dust bunny-gatherer and fun-implementer” Tracey is the author of Be the Mom, in which she shares advice on how to avoid what she describes as the seven most common “mom traps.”  She’s been a guest on the Focus on the Family broadcast, FamilyLife Today and Marriage Matters with Gary Smalley.

Tracey is excited about her most recent project with LifeWay – a six week Bible Study just for moms titled Beautiful Mess – Motherhood for Every Moment, which is being released in partnership with the Erwin Brothers movie Mom’s Night Out!  Beautiful Mess allows moms to ponder who God created them to be as moms and consider His truths regarding the all important role of motherhood.  Tracey hopes you’ll reach out to some other moms and explore your own Beautiful Mess.

She has traveled across the country and around the world teaching and volunteering. She’s been a speaker at multiple Famly Life  events, the Midwest Homeschool Convention, church and MOPS events across the country.

Tracey has written for Cru (formally known as Campus Crusade for Christ), FamilyLifeThriving Familymagazine, Christian Coaching TodayFamily Matters,Christian Work At Home Mom, and many blogs. She shares some of her own mothering experiences and strategies through her video interviews which are featured on several on-line communities. In these videos, she’s been joined by Kay Arthur, Dr. Meg Meeker, Barbara Rainey, Priscilla Shirer, and Dannah Gresh, among many others.

Tracey is happiest when her house is full of family and friends and her table is spread with homemade, southern comfort food. She enjoys hiking and horseback riding with her family on their horse farm in central Kentucky.

Enjoy your visit to the BetheMom.com. To connect with Tracey go here.

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Teaching our Boys to be Honest

One of my sons came home from school (he was in the 5th grade at the time) and I stood in the kitchen, holding a letter from the school.  The envelope contained a copy of a disciplinary note that he was supposed to bring me a copy of two weeks earlier.

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It is in how we handle those moments, and all of the moments in between, that teach our sons how important it is to be honest.

It makes a mama mad to know her son is being anything less than honest with her.  In a world that beckons boys to say what they think others want to hear, how can we help them become honest men of integrity?

O LORD, who may abide in Your tent? Who may dwell on Your holy hill? He who walks with integrity, and works righteousness, And speaks truth in his heart. Psalm 15: 1-2

Here are a few key areas to focus on when teaching sons to be honest:

  • Model honesty in your everyday life.  Our boys are watching us.  They hear us whisper to our spouse to tell the person on the other line that we aren’t home to take their call.  They see us paste a fake smile on our faces as we walk into church, after arguing with our spouse the whole way there.  They watch us tell the panhandler that we don’t have any cash, when we just left the ATM.   If we think your sons are too young to notice the nuances of dishonesty that cloud our lives, we are lying to ourselves.
  • Reward honesty.  Teach your boys that the consequences of lying will be more severe then if they come clean when questioned.  Let them tell you hard things without fear of your reaction.
  • Give Biblical examples.  The Bible is full of stories that teach the importance of being honest.  Show your child what happens when the truth is not priority.  Stories like Ananias and Sapphira (Acts 5:1-11) are great places to start.

The world needs more honest men. Let’s do our best to raise them.

Lord, we humbly ask that you provide us the strength to be women of honesty. Show us how to lead our boys in your ways and how to help them live lives of truth.  Give us patience, wisdom and grace for our boys, the same that You have for us.  In Jesus name, Amen.

Sometimes, it’s hard to submit to God’s plan #BitsOfBrooke

I wanted Jesus to heal my uncle.

I sat across from my husband at our favorite local pizza dive with tears in my eyes and said, “I’m not ready for this.” I knew it was coming—could feel it in my bones and in my heart—a season of loss, stripping, laying bare, and eventual rebuilding. Somehow, I knew it was coming. Maybe that was the Lord’s grace, but it didn’t make it easier.

A stripping it was.

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I watched my uncle fight and lose his battle with pulmonary fibrosis, his lungs hardening over time until he could barely breathe at all…and over the course of several years, I prayed and hoped Jesus would heal him.

It was my dad’s other brother who actually started the cycle, passing away on my youngest son’s first birthday. Ten months later, the one I’d thought would go first joined him. Then my grandfather, then my aunt, then my baby, then my grandmother. And I hoped Jesus would heal them all.

But he didn’t. Or at least not here. And that’s not what I hoped for. I wanted him to heal them here so I could enjoy more time with them. But that wasn’t his plan.

Sometimes, it’s hard to submit to God’s plan.

As moms, we’re convinced that we know what’s best for our kids…that our way really is the best way for them. We see their gifts, their talents, their possibility, and we sacrifice to help them reach the fullest them they can be. And then God doesn’t always heal when we need him to, leaving us wondering why it all matters, and if any of it is worth it.

But he does do what he set out to do. He accomplishes what he came for in his timing…and friends, today, I want to help us not lose sight of the significance of that gift.

When Jesus walked among us, he healed many sick. Crowds brought their lame, blind, bleeding, leprous, dying friends and family to the savior in hopes that just a mere touch of his garment would bring them peace. And it was peace Jesus came to give, but not just of the physical kind. Maybe not even primarily of the physical kind.

Jesus came to give life, but not just the living and breathing kind…maybe not even primarily the living and breathing kind.

Jesus came to give hope, but not just hope to save our bodies, he came to give hope that could save our souls.

“Why do we seek him? Is it so he can perform for us, take care of all our needs, bind up our wounds, raise our dead? He is that God. He sees us. But if we only follow him because of what he does, there will come a time when we feel like he doesn’t. And then we must choose if we will turn away or follow through the times when life hurts too much because of who he is, not what he does.” ~ Hope for the Weary Mom

Friends, Jesus didn’t come to heal our bodies of sickness. Occasionally, just because he loves us so much and because it brings him the most glory, he heals our disease, but it’s not the main reason he came. He came to heal our souls.

Today, sweet mama, I want to ask you take a good, hard look at why you’re following Jesus. Is it because of all he’s done for you? Good, that’s wonderful, right, and true. But there’s more. When the tough times come, and they will, your ability to follow anyway will need to be based on something deeper, and that can only be found in who he is. Your love for him will need to sustain you even when you can’t see him at work in your life.

Thankfully, it’s your experience of Jesus now, in the good times, that will fuel your faith in the hard times (<—Tweet that!) So if you’re hanging out in the sweet times, with blue skies all around and not a drop of rain in sight, get in his word. Get to know him NOW, and commit to following him even when the going gets tough.

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Would you like to join an intimate, exclusive group of like-minded boy moms who want to take the information they read on the MOB Society to the next level?

We’ve created a new Facebook group just for you! It’s called Going Deeper with the MOB Society: Putting Faith into Action.

“The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.” Proverbs 20:5 (ESV)

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Everything we do at the MOB Society is designed to help you raise godly men. Our vision? To help moms find delight in the chaos of raising boys, and raise a generation of men to love the Lord.

As we’ve been praying and asking the Lord what we could do to come alongside you in a deeper way, the Lord put Proverbs 20:5 on our hearts, and gave us a idea to help you put your faith into action.

You are cordially invited to join our brand new private Facebook group for mothers of boys, Going Deeper with the MOB Society: Putting Faith into Action. Many members of our writing team, faces you know and recognize from our blog posts, are hanging out over there waiting to help you take the material they write about and put it into action.

If you’ve wondered how to take what you read on our blog to the next level, this group is for you. You’ll have access to the hearts and words of our writers, be able to talk to them on their writing days, and really hear their hearts for the words God puts on their hearts for you.

To join, just follow this link and send us a request. We’ll make sure you get in! When you get there, be sure to read the “about” section, and watch for today’s post inviting you to introduce yourself. We can’t wait to get to know you better!

Screen Shot 2014-06-30 at 11.05.14 PMBrooke McGlothlin is the co-founder of the MOB Society, author of Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most, and co-author of Hope for the Weary Mom: Let God Meet You in Your Mess (releasing from Harvest House in February 2015).

Teenage Triple Whammy: Shaving, Braces, and Muscles

This month, our oldest son graduates from 8th grade which means he’s headed to high school lickety-split. The transition from middle school to high school is a game changer.

While he certainly has bigger challenges ahead of him, right now our teenager is increasingly aware of his appearance. He went from couldn’t care less to self-conscious almost overnight. His awareness of girls and the desire to play high school football motivate this new emphasis on grooming and physical stature.

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Boys hit puberty at different rates. As they head into high school, many boys outweigh their mamas and some are taller than their fathers. Voices are dropping right and left and chubby, youthful faces are morphing into more mature visages.

In our house, physical appearance challenges can be narrowed down to the teenage boy triple whammy—shaving, braces, and muscles.

Tips for Teenagers on Shaving, Braces, and Muscles

Shaving

Shaving is a rite of passage. However, talking about facial hair, shaving, and basic grooming can be awkward for your teenage son.

  • Don’t turn a “first shave” into a “first baby steps” moment. We failed at this. Making a video of your son’s first shave for future rehearsal dinner material will not go over well with your teenager. Trust me on this one.
  • Help keep his medicine cabinet and gym bag stocked. Make sure all your son’s grooming needs are in full supply and accessible. If it’s not in plain sight, my son won’t use it so, I help by making sure items like shaving cream, a clean razor, hair gel, deodorant, and, yes, toothpaste are all within arms reach.

Braces

Despite the fact that most teens spend time in braces, they feel as if they are the only brace-face that ever lived. Closed-mouth smiles, larger mouth guards for sports, and the annoying broken bracket syndrome are all side effects of wearing braces. Our biggest challenge is keeping a growing teenage boy with braces fed. We’ve upped our game by getting creative in the kitchen and adding a variety of whole food snacks that are soft and healthy.

Our favorite “Braces Friendly” recipes:

Muscles

For teenage boys who still haven’t had the inevitable growth spurt, telling them it’s coming will fall on deaf ears. While I would love to have the problem of being too skinny, for a teenage boy it’s an epic discouragement. We encourage healthy ways to beef up his muscles by providing balanced snacks and meals with lots of good protein.

Our son’s favorite protein packed meals:

What advice do you have to offer on guiding our sons through these teenage years?