The Power of an Answered Prayer

Last year, my family and I took a leap of faith…we packed up everything and moved from the open plains of Texas to the rolling hills of Tennessee.  Leaving a home of 16 years came with many changes ~ missing the comfort of family & friends, leaving a church family that played an integral role in the restoration of our marriage, uprooting the familiarity of school & jobs, and giving up ever knowing how to get to the grocery store without getting lost for 30 minutes!  It’s absolutely been a season full of trust and growth spiritually and emotionally as we’ve gained our bearings in this new life.

One of the hardest parts of this move as a momma was the impact on my children.  At first, they were excited about the new adventure as we looked for a home, new school, and new church. And bit by bit God has blessed our obedience in this move as we’ve slowly settled in to a life full of community and jobs filled with ministry. However, as the months wore on and the newness of the move wore off, both my children started to show in different ways their uncertainty with all the change.

My daughter has always been an extrovert and is blossoming into a beautifully empathetic daughter of God.  When she’s stressed, frusturated, lonely, mad…she prays and writes letters to God to sort out her feelings.  She has a beautiful child like faith and praises Him daily through song and dance and joy.

My son is more like me…a true introvert.  We are quiet, observant, drawn inward to our thoughts.  Taking a step towards friendship and community is a challenge to our nature. However I knew with this move, he and I both needed to really step outside of our comfort zones and seek others.  God has really blessed my efforts in ways I could not have hoped or dreamed for. For my son, it was a little bit harder.  As an extremely logical and practical child, he had a hard time understanding why God didn’t immediately answer his prayers for friendship.  But he kept on being diligent in his trust, finding ways to look at a painful situation in a positive way.  In October, I wrote about him learning how to be a friend.

It took a few months after this initial post for my sweet boy to see any results of his prayers and obedience.  In fact, he never became more than acquaintances with the boy mentioned and asked endless questions about why God wouldn’t answer his prayers for a friend NOW.  We had sweet countless talks about the sovereignty of God, the beauty in the waiting, His perfect answer and timing.  Some days my boy was faithful in trust, some days he’d cry with the loneliness.  But he always worked his way back to trust.

One sunny day, we noticed a new boy had  moved in.  It took my son a few days to pray through his fear of rejection and fear of walking up to someone he didn’t know, but he finally did.  Now, they are inseparable.

On Easter Sunday my son was baptized…and one of the main reasons he cited to me when he accepted Jesus into his heart was because of this situation….My son had lived through the tension of waiting, the hard path of obedience in faithfulness and trust, and the perseverance of praying to a God who sometimes uses the hard changes of life to bring us closer to Him.

 

 

 

I long to be like my son

As tears streamed down his face, he ran to me.Explaining to me why he crying. He wasn’t hurt on  the outside, but hurting inside. Friends that he has made do not follow the Lord. His heart is breaking. He does not  understand how people can not believe. After all that the Lord has done. I love at the age of 9 my son has a heavy burden for the “lost”. He longs for everyone to know about Jesus. He is a little boy, but his heart is huge. He is not afraid to tell others about Jesus.

 This is one time where I need to be more like my child. Shouting it from the mountain tops. What Jesus has done! AMAZING LOVE! AMAZING GRACE! I hear, “Oh ye of little faith.” My heart breaks. Why don’t I share more often?  Why do I seem to shy away when people start asking? Why don’t I talk about THE GOOD NEWS more often, then just when that topic comes up? I am not ashamed, yet I act as if I am? I am too proud. I need to be more like my son! We sat and prayed for his friends. One by one. Name by name. Silently I prayed that I will have the faith of my son.

Question: How do your boys exhibit amazing faith and trust in God?

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A Life-changing Phone Call and Lessons Learned

“Honey?” (shaky breath) “Andrew’s been in an accident. His injuries are serious but not life threatening. He was hit head on.”

My husband’s quivering voice brought the phone call no mom wants to get. It came unexpectedly in early January, and life quickly changed for this mom of four sons.

Most of you boy moms would call me a survivor because my boys are in college and beyond at this point. But I’m still in the trenches, just not the same ones you’re in right now. And once a mom, always a mom – especially in times like this.

We had to travel states away, enduring long flights and layovers to get to him, but thank the Lord his oldest brother was only an hour or so away. The oldest was at his brother’s side when we got there and stayed right there for days. What a blessing brothers can be to each other!

We brought our “boy” home to recover since he’s single and would be wheelchair-bound for a number of months. We’ve seen progress and he’s healing and getting stronger and we’re so thankful. There’s still a lot of work to be done to get him back in his own apartment and job, but he’s working hard with that goal in mind.

These last three months have been a whirlwind. Life has been all about this event and how to move beyond it. As I contemplated this post, I decided I could share a few things that would cut across the lines of this experience to every boy mom’s life. So here they are:

1. Cherish every day with your boy—good, tough, frustrating. They’re all good.

2. Nurture brother love. They’ll really need each other one day.

3. Admit that sometimes one boy needs a bit more from you than another. That’s life. Do your best to spread the mom love around, but know that it’ll all even out in the end.

4. Realize that life can change oh-so-quickly. Of course it will take you by surprise, but live close enough to your Heavenly Father that you can lean on Him.

5. Treasure scripture. The words of our Heavenly Father are always lovely, but in a time like this, they’re just pure sustenance to your soul. Memorize as much as you can so it just bubbles up out of your heart. Put the Bible on your phone so you’ll carry it with you.

A friend sent this scripture specifically for me one morning and it’s been printed and on our kitchen table ever since:

“LORD, be gracious to us; we long for you. Be our strength every morning, our salvation in time of distress. He will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; the fear of the LORD is the key to this treasure.” (Isaiah 33:2, 6 NIV)

6. Let people help you. Let me say that again, Mom—let people help you. Most of us do far too little of letting others help. Let go of your pride and say, “Yes, I could use some help” when someone asks. Believe it or not, it blesses others to help you.

7. Thank God for every little thing. (Yes, Ann Voskamp!) Those little things come to mean so much, and thanking Him reminds you that He’s the Source of it all.

I could go on and on. I’ve learned so much! My challenge now is to take those lessons learned in the darkness back into the light of every day—and to share them with the moms I know.

We’ve all had dark days of one kind or another. Don’t cover those up. Drag them out into the light and use their lessons to encourage another mom today.

Will you?

Love Makes it All OK

Though I tried to hold them in, I couldn’t stop the tears from pouring out that night. My heart wanted desperately to always immerse my boys in an environment of peace, love, and joy, but that night weariness had gotten the best of me. I was feeling the pressure of all that was expected of me as a young mom with a newborn baby and an inquisitive 2-year old; sleepless nights answering to the baby’s cry and early mornings waking to the call of “Mommy”. I was feeling the fatigue from effort placed into making my house a home; a never ending list of chores and dreams.

I was feeling the heaviness of heart and guilt of failing to be a wife worth more than rubies whose husband is respected at the city gates and praises her. I was tired and overwhelmed. I laid my baby down to sleep and curled up on the sofa trying to hide the tears from my little man as he sounded his best siren voice and rushed the vacuum hose across the room to quell the imaginary fire.

Yet somehow in the midst of his childhood play he noticed, and for a moment in that little 2 year old’s heart, his mommy was more important than the fire. He walked over to me calmly and climbed into my lap.

He wrapped his arms around me and with a tender voice and emerging speech, he whispered, “It’s Ok Mommy, I love you.”

I will never forget his precious words. His words became comfort and motivation, peace and joy. Love is so powerful.

Lord, “May your unfailing love be my comfort.”  Psalm 119:76

With 5 boys now, ages 7 to 17, feeling overwhelmed is not uncommon and I often still fail to live up to the high standards of Godly womanhood. Yet, in the midst of life’s struggles and shortcomings I can continue to smile, for love makes it possible to walk in grace and to keep reaching up and reaching out. Love makes a desire grow inside of us to press on in our circumstances, to give all we can and find peace in that.

Those precious words have echoed within my heart many times throughout my years of raising boys. When the dishes are overflowing and the laundry is piled high, “It’s Ok Mommy, I love you.”  When dinner wasn’t quite gourmet, and we’ve run out of milk again, “It’s Ok Mommy, I love you.”  When the pressure builds and patience is lost, “It’s Ok Mommy, I love you.” When the weariness sets in and tears begin to flow, it’s Ok my friend, He loves you. That precious child of yours really loves you!  And your Heavenly Father loves you, beyond measure. So allow that truth to sink in to the very depth of your soul, then give yourself grace and press on… because love makes it all ok.

“May the Lord direct your hearts into God’s love and Christ’s perseverance.” 2 Thessalonians 3:5

Stacy Pelzl, A wife of 15 years and a mom of 5 boys welcomed into my heart through marriage, birth, and adoption. I walk daily in God’s grace, desperately clinging to His Word as I home-school, home-make, and seek to grow in Christ …  I share my heart at http://www.dailysurrendertojesus.com/