Perhaps the only thing harder than being lonely is being the parent of a lonely child. We all want our kids to be happy, fulfilled, and surrounded by people who love them and think they’re as wonderful as we do. Yet most kids will go through a season or two (or eight) where they experience some degree of loneliness. Unfortunately it’s just a part of life. The good news is that lonely seasons will not last forever. Though telling our kids that may not make everything better, this truth can help us as parents to keep perspective. And as a...Read More
I often enter and exit the holidays with mixed emotions. There is no doubt: I am a a big fan of Christmas everything, savoring the season start to finish. I probably shouldn’t admit this but, my boys and I even start dabbling in Christmas music right around … hmm, mid-September! Yes, I love everything about Christmas—the lights, the food, the spiritual lessons, the music, the decorations. Everything! Except the commercialized/materialistic side of the holiday. And it’s not so much that I reject the material side of Christmas. It’s more that I tend to embrace it. And that bothers me....Read More
My husband and I met and married relatively quickly. We knew each other less than nine months when we stood before hundreds of people and said “I do,” committing to a lifetime together. This went against conventional wisdom, of course, and now twenty years later, I even sometimes shake my head wondering what we were thinking! (and please boys, don’t do that!) Well, we might have been young and in love (and a little foolish too) but one thing we did choose wisely was a theme for our wedding. Or I should say: A theme for our marriage. We had...Read More
Whenever I face change, I think of the old willow tree. The big weeping willow that sat on the edge of the bay in front of my childhood home was where I would go to sort through my feelings, and maybe shed some private tears. It’s actually a bit funny because I was not very emotional as a kid. Being raised with only brothers, I was a tough little tomboy, but change did something to me. Whether it was the changing of seasons, or the changing of friends, new school year, or an old crush, change of almost any kind would bring on a stirring in my soul. And there you could find me, under the old willow tree. Now that I’m all grown up, and living thousands of miles from that old willow tree, I still have a funny relationship with change. Here in Hawaii, I no longer experience the falling leaves or any obvious signs of changing seasons, but I do find myself extra thoughtful as we end a school year, head into the holidays, or wrap up summer and look ahead to what’s next. I still believe that taking some time to reflect on the old and ponder the new is healthy and good. I also think our kids are more affected by change than we often realize, so it’s wise to talk to them about it, and give them some space to process...Read More
THIS ARTICLE IS A READER FAVORITE AND WAS ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN January 2013. The four-boy tuck-in routine can be exhausting. Our two-year-old has turned out to be the most challenging of any of our boys at bedtime, seeming to come to life just about the time we are ready to collapse and enjoy a few minutes of quiet. If, and when, we finally get him down, there are still three more boys to read to (on a good night), say prayers with, and get into their beds. By the time I get to my thirteen-year-old, it’s usually an abbreviated tuck-in....Read More
Here at The MOB Society, our mission is to equip and encourage parents to raise godly men. And as a community of BoyMoms, we're learning to delight in the chaos of raising boys along the journey! Click here to read more about our story and the heart behind our ministry. And to meet our co-founders, Brooke and Erin, and the rest of the team, click here!