The morning clouds broke into sunshine as the students happily donned their flowing robes and straightened their hats. I took my place among the faculty preparing to watch the senior class earn their diplomas after twelve years of education. I wasn’t a mother at the time, but many of these teens had been in my classroom every year since 10th grade and I felt that maternal instinct kick in as I prepared to say goodbye and send them off to college.
Thanks to Facebook, I am now connected with many of them and I can see just what became of these young adults that I had poured my heart and soul into for so many years. Most of the time, I am proud. But occasionally, I see the remnants of lives shattered by wrong choices and misplaced values.
That same angst must have been what Samson’s mother and father felt when he decided to marry a woman from the Philistines instead of from among the women of his own people. After all, his mother had been visited by an angel of God twice as a promise that Samson would deliver his people from Philistine bondage:
“You will become pregnant and have a son whose head is never to be touched by a razor because the boy is to be a Nazirite, dedicated to God from the womb. He will take the lead in delivering Israel from the hands of the Philistines.” Judges 13:5
The book of Judges explains that Samson was set apart from birth. His parents did everything in their power to raise him as the angel of God had commanded them, but something went wrong. As an adult, Samson let his eyes lead his heart and he chose a woman that would eventually lead to tragedy upon tragedy.
And their marriage? It never had a chance.
Samson’s parents had warned him; they tried to guide him in this decision, but we wanted what he wanted. Perhaps you’re raising a boy who seems bent on his own way too. It’s tempting to write a son off after those kinds of poor choices isn’t it?
Questioning God’s purpose in their lives is only natural and yet, God was Sovereign over Samson’s decision to marry that less-than-ideal bride. In fact, God would eventually use Samson to fulfill exactly what He had promised before his birth. Samson would indeed, be used greatly by God to rule Israel for 20 years and to defeat the Philistines.
It was messy.
And Samson didn’t learn his lustful lesson with his young bride. Yet another woman would cause him to forget his calling and follow his emotions instead. But that’s not the totality of Samson’s story. Samson was filled with the Spirit of God over and over again, despite his failures.
The same is true for our sons too. Our sons are not the sum of their mistakes or bad choices. Time and time again I can look back over my own life and see how God redeemed both my immaturity and my sin. That’s what God does. He takes the weak, the unlovely, the foolish, and He makes them strong, beautiful, and wise.
Are you there, Mom? Wondering if your son will ever fulfill his purpose in life because he doesn’t seem to be following the path that you encouraged him to walk? Do not be discouraged. Remember that God does indeed have a plan for every life He creates and that His plans cannot be thwarted. His arm is not too short to save!
Keep breathing life into your sons with Truth from God’s Word.
Persevere in prayer over their lives.
Be available to offer wisdom when they need it.
Trust in God’s bigger plan for you son’s life and remember that His ways are often not our ways. Hope ever in the beauty of God’s ability to restore and renew, and let your son walk the path that God has laid before him.
Just as Samson’s life was a journey of both pitfalls and profound purpose, so it will be with our boys as they too become men whom God will use greatly for His glory. God’s not done with our sons, moms. Raise them well, and relinquish them to our great God who loves them and Whose purposes will always prevail.
Questions for Discussion:
- Can you remember a time that you made choices that your parents would not have approved and yet God used your situation for good?
- Do you worry about the path your son will take when he is older?
- How has Samson’s example given you food for thought?
A former high school English teacher and budding novelist, Amber is a work-at-home mom of 3 little boys under the age of 6. She and her husband Guy answered the calling to start Storehouse Media Group, a faith-friendly and family-friendly TV and Film production company in Los Angeles, CA. When she’s not building sand castles with her boys on the beach in Santa Monica, CA or baking her famous Triple Layer Triple Chocolate Fudge Cake, you can find Amber writing to encourage families on her blog at www.MotherOfKnights.com