Today we’ve invited a friend of ours, the mother of a GIRL (shock! gasp!) to guest post.
Teri Lynne Underwood, of Pleasing to You and Scripture Dig, is raising an amazing girl. Today she’s sharing with us, mothers of boys and future mothers-n-law, what she prays for us as we raise our boys knowing that one day, her little girl will grow up…and meet a man…
Long before my daughter was born I began praying for her future husband. I prayed that he would cherish her and love the Lord with an undivided heart. I asked the Lord to give him a passion for the Word and that he be a man of integrity. And I prayed that his parents would love and cherish him.
Gradually, I began to realize a need to pray for my future son-in-law’s mother. As I looked at the many little boys in our church and in my daughter’s school, the Lord opened my eyes to the unique relationship between mother and son … and the way that relationship could ultimately affect my daughter’s marriage.
Over time I developed a prayer for this special woman … the one who is raising the man who will care for my daughter when she leaves our home, the one who will be my grandchildren’s other grandmother, the one who will play a key role in my daughter’s life.
“Father, I don’t know her. I don’t know her heart or her background. I don’t know what she’s been through and what she’s facing today. I don’t know if she’s married or divorced or a single mom. I don’t know anything about her. But You do. And so I trust You in this … that You are at work, even today, preparing the heart of this woman to love my daughter, her son’s future wife.
I pray that she is a woman of prayer, daily – even minute-by-minute – placing her cares and concerns at Your feet. May she see Your faithfulness in all things, even tragedy, and teach her son to trust You at all times. I pray she loves Your Word and spends time daily building a relationship with You through Scripture. As she spends time in Your Word, I pray that her son sees that a woman who loves the Lord is true beauty – the kind that doesn’t fade or change but grows more precious as time passes by.
I pray for this daughter of Yours, the mother of my future son-in-law. Give her a longing for things that are true and noble and worthy of praise (Philippians 4:8) and a gentle spirit (1 Peter 3:4). May her manner be tender and compassionate (Ephesians 4:32) and her heart be focused on the “better part” (Luke 10:42).
Most of all, I pray that she is raising a son who sees You through her … and that when the day comes that he meets my daughter that his mother’s prayers will be answered as well. Amen.”
I’ve got a girl … a beautiful, creative, passionate, precious girl. One day she’ll have a mother-in-law and that woman’s son will be entrusted with the care of that which is precious to my husband and me, our daughter. And so I pray for her because she’s going to be a significant part of my daughter’s life … and because she’s raising the man who will one day hold my daughter’s heart.
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Your turn: Are you praying for the mother of the girl who will capture the heart of your boy? I’m praying (Brooke) for my sons’ mothers-n-law to be like pearls. Rubbed and softened by grace till she radiates pure beauty. If you pray for your son’s future wife or mother-n-law leave us a comment below. It will serve as your entry in a $75 The Vintage Pearl Giveaway.
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Oh Teri Lynne, you can always make me cry! Now in addition to what I have been praying for my future daughters-in-love, I am adding that I hope they have a mama like you =)
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Thank you so much, Melissa. You are so kind and I love your sweet heart.
Isn’t she awesome? Teri Lynne you know how I feel about prayer. I think it’s one of the most important things I can do for my sons. But honestly, I never thought about praying for my future daughters-in-law’s mothers or fathers for that matter. I will now. Thanks for the reminder!
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I forgot to mention a neat story. Before me, my DH dated a woman who was not good for him. She treated him so poorly and wasn’t a Believer. His mama (who was the love of his life back then), rather than telling him he couldn’t see her, embraced her, fed her (her mom didn’t take good care of her) and loved her…all the while praying that the Lord would move her on. When my DH and I started dating, my sweet MIL told me that she had prayed her away…and prayed me in. I love her for loving her son (and me) that way.
Tears here too! I’m praying that even though i’m not nearly as eloquent as you, GE knows my heart desires exactly what you articulated! *bl*b
That was HE KNOWS and *blessings* told you I wasn’t eloquent… ; )
I often pray for the wives my little guys will have one day. I have already started reminding them (especially my 5 year old)…that true beauty comes from loving Jesus and doing God’s will. That should be the most important thing he looks for in girls and boys! HE loves the thought that he will be married one day…and I will be the NANA to his baby GIRL!!
I also have started shielding his eyes from blatant displays of sexuality… I think they can never be too young to guard their eyes!
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That is so sweet! I often think about my future daughter-in-laws and what they will be like. I pray that I will be a loving, welcoming, mother-in-law to them that never makes them feel uncomfortable the way the stereotypical MIL/DIL relationship can be. Now I will be praying for the Mom who is raising them as well. On Monday I found out we are expecting our first little girl! So I guess it’s time to start praying for her future husband and MIL too!
Thank you for your prayers. I do pray for my sons future wife but never really thought about the in-laws! What a great reminder!!
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Wow – never occurred to me, I am sorry to say, to pray for my children’s future mother in law. But what a wonderful, prayer. I will start now. After 13 years of marriage, I can honestly say that in just the last 3 months I have begun to have a positive relationship with my mother in law. This will be a prayer of mine from now on. Thank you.
I have prayed for my son’s future wife but hadn’t thought about the importance of praying for his MIL. Thank you for reminding me of the blessing I have in my in-laws and the blessing I want to pass along!
What a wonderful reminder! I pray for my daughter’s husband a lot, but I almost forgot to pray for my sons’ future spouses and in-laws.
Oh Teri Lynne – so much goodness and beauty here. Thank you for sharing this prayer and your heart with the MOB! *MUAH*
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Muah back, Erin! And thank you for allowing me to share my heart here at The Mob Society.
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From someone who has greatly struggled in the relationship with her mother-in-law and also the way it has effected our marriage, I heartily agree with the importance of this kind of prayer!! I think praying for our kids future husbands/wives as well as their parents is one of the best things we can do for them. I honestly hope that all of my children will be blessed with amazing in-laws who not only are Godly people themselves, but have raised their son or daughter to be that way as well! Thanks for sharing your thougts on this.
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Thanks for the great idea. I have been praying for my kid’s spouses but never even thought to pray for their future in-laws.
I am fully convinced that my mother in law prayed me through the rough and rocky years I has growing up. I had very little direction and once I came to Christ I KNEW someone prayed for me. When I met her I KNEW it was her. Let’s keep praying ladies!
What a beautiful post. Thank you Teri Lynne. I have long prayed for the young men who will marry my daughters and the girl who will wed my son, but I never thought to pray for their parents. Looks like YOU are the pearl of wisdom today. Kisses, Kristin
Wow – beautifully written & so very true that we should be praying for this dear woman! I pray for my son’s future wife, but it had never occurred to me to pray his mom! I was blessed with a great mother-in-law, who raised a wonderful son.
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I love the Dainty Drops necklace – so pretty!
Can I be a brat for just a second?
This post is beautiful and I love it. SO please do not confuse that.
But something that strikes me…that frankly, I totally do myself…is well…kind of assuming that my kids will all get married and have babies someday.
OF COURSE that would be my preference. My preference would also be that they go on to college and get good jobs. But the reality is that God provides marriages for some…but not all. Not all of us will have babies. Some will go into the missions field forever single. And while that would break my mama’s heart…I have to remember that ultimately…at the end of the day…when I strip away all of my own preferences and desires…when I boil it down to the deepest nitty gritty…what I desire for my son (and daughters) is that they are god loving, god fearing men and women. Period. Married. Single. With 20 babies. Or none.
I don’t mean to be the spoil sport. (You know I love you Terri Lynne!) I just thought I had to say it because it’s not the first post that talks about our boys getting married and I always worry what will happen if it doesn’t adcutally happen, you know?
Love you!
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I totally agree with you … and in my prayers for my daughter is the realization that she may not get married – but that she will have an obedient heart. This prayer was birthed from an “if she does get married what do I want for her” mindset.
Excellent point! We often do not leave room for the gift of singleness and we must!
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I pray for my future son-in-law and daughter-in-law, but I never thought to pray for the parents that will shape them. What a wonderful way to pray for another mother! My MIL is a blessing in my life, so I definitely want the same for my son and daughter.
Well, I, myself – am not yet married. I do, though, pray daily for my future husband – for God to work in my life…to lead me in the way He needs for me to go – and to reveal to me whomever this man is that He has planned for me to marry. I know in my heart that God has an amazing man chosen to be my husband…. I am just yet to meet him! This topic is actually something that has been on my heart a lot lately. My parents also prayed for each other before they ever even met. They have told me that literally a few weeks before they met – they had been praying daily about their future – for their future spouse. Prayer is so powerful. Yes, I know that not all people *will* marry…but I just *know* that God has marriage in my future. It’s just something that I feel convicted *will* happen – and I know that this feeling is from the Holy Spirit. It is so beautiful to me that God has had my future husband picked-out since before Creation. Isn’t that amazing?!
So…I will continue to pray. For my future husband, for my future children, and for my {future} children to first, and foremost – love the Lord. – and for them to one day, if it is in His plan – to also find a God-fearing spouse.
..oh! I just love the Vintage Pearl. I especially love the rustic cross necklace & the mother of pearl necklace. (the pearl is my birthstone … and my birthday is this Saturday!) (:
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Great article! Such a good reminder. I tweeted about this giveaway and follow the mob society on facebook and twitter
The “a flower and a circle” necklace is so cute!
Teri – what a beautiful prayer and one I will adopt (with your permission) I’m so lucky to have found this website. What an awesome step on my journey.
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Most certainly you are welcome to adopt!!
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Wow! Awesome post! And I have to admit I have always prayed for the future spouses of children but it never dawned on me to pray for thier mothers until now! Thank you for this post as it opened the eyes of my heart!!:)
from the necklaces: all around my faith really speaks to me…I think that will go on my Christmas list!
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Wonderful post! You are so right. A mother-in-law and her relationship with her son is a huge deal and plays a huge role in what kind of relationship he will have with his wife. I have three little boys and pray that their spouses will have a Mom like you praying for her, them and me, too.
Blessings!
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Subscribed to the Vintage Pearl newsletter and put her button on my blog. I cannot wait to tell others about her fantastic work.
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Love this post! I often pray for both of my sons future wives, that they have loving parents, who teach them and bring them up in the Lord.
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I’ve never thought about praying for my sons’ MILs but given my strained relationship with my own, I definitely see the need for this. Thank you for adding this prayer to my heart.
I follow on twitter & tweeted http://twitter.com/sclubmama/status/16307453659
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Love the circle of love necklace! So pretty!
I really like the all around my faith necklace
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I pray for my daughter-in-law and her mother.
*And I also pray that God helps me to be a wonderful mother-in-law.
I follow MOB on twitter!
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And I’m a follower or the MOB blog! (Comes up in my reader!)
Wow! This was so powerful. As I read her prayer I felt convicted that I wasn’t the woman she’s hoping her daughter ‘gets’.
Oh Janine … your heart shines through in this transparent & honest comment. ((hugs))
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i shopped around the vintag pearl. i would probably choose rectangle names on a chain. love it!
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This is precious, as a mom of girls and boys- I would love knowing someone is lifting me in prayer as I raise them as well as returning that prayer in support of their moms and dads. I think I will also add praying for FIL because it will be through him that sons learn how to treat their wives and daughters develop their picture of God the Father! Thank you for the post!